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To send my son to school without a phone

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sandybeaches74 · 01/05/2023 21:30

My DS is in Yr 7 and we live in a village so he goes to school and comes home on a school bus. Today I have found several things on his phone which I am not happy about, photos and videos that he is taking during school and also messages between him and girls which I would consider to be a massive distraction and also have the potential to cause issues. Just silly things about how much he likes the girls, or how much they like him and lots of 'how many out of 10' type conversations - but lots of it. It's left me feeling a bit uncomfortable and also like he cannot be focusing at school with all that going on.

Given he travels to school on a bus, would I be unreasonable to take his phone off him? Has anyone been in a similar situation?

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PollyPut · 02/05/2023 19:53

Sprinkles211 · 02/05/2023 10:58

Why punish him for acting like a totally normal teen? And potentially leave him in a dangerous or at least frightening situation like you said he's missed the bus a couple of times before? Having Frank open conversations is a much better way to go no matter how uncomfortable they may feel to you, your not protecting your child, you should be giving them informed choices and then even if they make the wrong one its a learning curve and a very normal one to have but your at least aware and can support them rather than it all being in secret

@Sprinkles211 a lot of us don't consider rating girls out of 10 and sharing that information as normal (or acceptable) behaviour, especially in year 7. And a lot of schools don't too - that is heading towards detention pretty quickly.

Also - he's not a teen yet.

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