To hoover at this time?

[Hovvery]

My husband things I'm unreasonable, I disagree so putting it to you on MN!

DHs teen was here last night and often sleeps in (he is 13).

I tend to have a fly around of the house in the mornings (we have a toddler so up early!). This includes hoovering which this morning I did about 9:30am.

DS's son will sleep in often until gone 11:30/12 as he stays up until god knows when on a weekend / non school night.

DH said I was unreasonable to hoover (downstairs, other bedrooms and hallway outside his room) when I knew he was still sleeping, I disagree and think sleep in if you want but normal life doesn't revolve around a 13 year olds lie ins 🤷‍♀️

YANBU - you can hoover when a teen is in bed.

YABU - you should wait until everyone is awake.

9.30am is a perfectly acceptable time to vacuum the floor without the bedrooms on it. Bedroom floors I'd wait til everyone's awake. Unless of course someone worked night shift then I'd save all vacuuming til they were up.

I didn't hoover his bedroom, I hoovered the other bedrooms and the hallway.

I hoover in order to wake the teenager up, though I'd probably go for half ten not half nine

If he does want you to hoover at that time, either he or the kid can hoover when he gets up

9.30am is late for hoovering in this house 😂

Perfectly reasonable. The exceptions would be not well, shift work etc.

Tough -9:30 is totally fine to hoover. I probably wouldn't hoover his actual bedroom but every other room would get done

Get a Shark instead.

I never did at that time if mine were sleeping, I was able to

do it later so I did. Or they did. Whichever. Equally if I was asleep I expected them to keep noise to a minimum and this often meant afternoons as I go through flare ups if a condition which leave me wiped out and unable to get through a day.

930 seems fine to me - but I guess next time you just leave it to dh to do during the day ?

Tell dh he can take over this task, then he can hoover when he likes

YANBU i hoover whenever I want, done it at 11pm at night and 6am on some occasions. 😂

Spending more money so the teenagers can lob around in bed undisturbed for longer?
Behave

Unreasonable.

it has to be extremely important for me to wake someone actually sleeping. Different if he's just laying in bed watching shit/playing games etc.

it is annoying to not do what you want to do, when you want to do it, but it's all part of respect for others. If he wanted to game loudly at night with his mates, you'd expect him not to because you were sleeping. I think it cuts both ways re sleep.

OP you will answer your question when your own toddler will be the same age as DSS and sleeps late.

Does the hoover actually wake DSS up?

9:30 on a weekend isn't sleeping late, so YABU to say that not hoovering at this time of morning would be pausing normal life for someone's lie-in.

You are only BU to call it hoovering when surely you mean vacuuming. Unless you do actually own a Hoover. (Slopes off to pedant's corner like the wiener I am).

If he wanted to game loudly at night with his mates, you'd expect him not to because you were sleeping. I think it cuts both ways re sleep

Tbh I disagree this is the same thing. The only reason he needs to sleep in late is because he's choosing not to go to sleep at a reasonable time like everyone else. If I chose not to sleep until 3am and that meant I was then in bed half the day the next day, it wouldn't be reasonable of me to expect him not to game or make normal household noise during the day. That was my choice to not sleep at night.

I will continue to get on with normal life when he sleeps in.

YANBU. Life as a teenager includes being annoyed by hoovers on a morning. I remember it as a teen..it’s just life