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Anyone not got any neighbour problems?

92 replies

girlfriend44 · 01/05/2023 15:47

Neighbour problems seem a popular thing. Just wondered is there anyone who dosent have a neighbour problem of somesort?

We've had our fair share
Parking, fences, noise, do you ever worry about neighbour problems escalating.
Remember the young couple who were stabbed by their neighbour over parking. He got into their house and killed them.
Parking seems to be the worse one.

Does anyone worry about things getting out of hand?😭😒

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annonymousmouseinyourhouse · 01/05/2023 16:21

Some of my neighbours are lovely and some are not.

minsmum · 01/05/2023 16:24

We live on a terraced street in London parking is abysmal but we have lovely neighbours. The whole street are nice

ohtowinthelottery · 01/05/2023 16:24

Lovely neighbours here thanks. We've been here 30 years, as have the family directly opposite. NDN on one side been here 5 years (house only been built 7 years). NDN other side been here 4 years but prior to that had multiple different occupants as it was rented out for a while - but all great neighbours (mixture of families and couples over the years).
All neighbours happy to help each other out, take in parcels, chat over the fence but none of us socialise with each other (many different generations). BUT we all have our own driveways with enough parking space for our own vehicles and a visitor!

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 01/05/2023 16:24

One side don't ever talk to us, other side are ok and our dc play together, do lifts to Brownies, and behind us are wonderful reserve grandparents.

AgnesX · 01/05/2023 16:26

I don't want to jinx it but touch wood, the current lot are mostly ok. Apart from door slamming...wtf is it with people and noise😳

catmania · 01/05/2023 16:34

Neighbours either side of me lovely. But the CF over the back of me is a nasty piece of shit. The day she dies I will party. Had ten years of the cnut and cant wait till she goes one way or the other. Hate her with such a passion.

LaurelGrove · 01/05/2023 16:39

I like my neighbours. Very much in the case of the couple of one side - they use my car when they need to and we split the costs. And the others are perfectly pleasant. No drama - I've lived all over London and always had decent people living on either side of us.

Robyn847 · 01/05/2023 16:40

I'm very blessed that I have GREAT neighbours. Assume A-G.

A is old bloke with dementia who me (C) and B keep an eye on.

B is a bloke and his teenage Daughter, who occasionally has noisy parties that get out of hand, but no problems for last few months. B works in same sector as D who has just moved in. B is on holiday at the moment and teenage Daughter had to ring me to go round because they'd got to airport and realised they'd left a pizza in the oven. Spent Friday night wafting smoke out of the house and silencing smoke alarm, and reassuring A (who had come over in an the kerfuffle) that yes he COULD smell burning, but it was all ok.

C is me.

D is my friend, who I recommended to previous owner when I knew she wanted to sell. Previous owner has moved in with a fella from down the road. D is also on holiday and I'm feeding the pets for her. One has died so I have to phone her the day before she gets back to break the news they have one less pet. Pet is in my freezer (double bagged!) so they can still have a funeral with their child if they want.

E is pretty quiet but absolutely lovely. She keeps herself to herself. She works at the local builders yard and has offered us all staff discount, so that's a bonus.

F is shares a beer with B now and again. F is good at calming down the mentally handicapped man who lives with his elderly Mum at G when he gets distressed. F has a teenage son we never hear a peep out of. I don't know F at all. I scurry up my path because I feel awkward about it.

I always say hi and chat when I see A, B or D. If we're sharing transport after we've been out me and D will happily spend half an hour nattering in the car on the drive before we actually go into our houses!

They are very old houses so we often get mice. When one of us gets rid of them they often just pop up a few doors down.....its like we take it in turns at having the street infestation!

Flossflower · 01/05/2023 16:42

I have wonderful neighbours on both sides. We look after each others houses if either of them are away. The whole close is lovely. It has really made me want to stay here as we would hate to move somewhere with bad neighbours. We all have a drive and most are detached so that stops a lot of problems

cptartapp · 01/05/2023 16:50

There's only us and next door within a few hundred metres on a semi rural lane. They have three boys. The eldest is a convicted drug dealer who only came out of prison a few months ago. The night the police raided the house we heard the dogs searching in the bedroom. Blue lights on the drive and in the lane. That was interesting and a real eye raiser in this very middle class area.
They're actually really pleasant and have lived here twenty years. We've been here 18 years this year and never had a problem with them. Keep an eye on each others properties when away etc.

freyamay74 · 01/05/2023 16:52

Same as @CurlyTop1980

No problems, but our main criteria when buying were: detached and our own driveway. We were lucky to in getting a garden which isn't overlooked and which has 'tucked away' spaces where we're not adjoining another garden. A lot of modern detacheds are slap bang up against other houses with a rectangle of lawn surrounded on 3 sides by other people, so noise can still be an issue.

I wake up every day feeling thankful - because we've had anti social neighbours in the past and it's hell. It invaded every bit of your life. And even if you have great neighbours, if you're in a property that's joined or up close to others, then things could change overnight.

Once our kids got older and we weren't so restricted by schools, we moved to the home we're in now and it's honestly life changing.

Some of the neighbour threads on here are truly awful. It's so wrong that just be sheer chance of who's next door to you, your life can be made a nightmare

WeightoftheWorld · 01/05/2023 16:53

We don't. And tbh we've had minor gripes in the past with some but never complained to any of them and either they or us have always moved on eventually anyways.

Cakeorchocolate · 01/05/2023 16:54

Thankfully no issues here.

TooBigForMyBoots · 01/05/2023 16:58

I live in a terraced council house in a "really bad" inner city area. My neighbours are lovely.❤️

sabrr · 01/05/2023 17:01

Babyroobs · 01/05/2023 15:59

Had a recent problem with one of them hacking the shared hedge down excessively leaving a huge gaping hole so that we can see straight into their garden and them into ours. He is also just generally loud/ a know it all / a bit racist/ a bit of an idiot. The other side are fine now their very noisy kids are older.

Same! And their kids think our garden is a free for all! Not happy with my boundaries lol Grin thought they could take the piss as we moved in!

TodayInahurry · 01/05/2023 17:04

Ours are all fine. Not too noisy, well behaved children. One side, detached has a noisy dog they leave in the garden more than I would, our does not bark!

nice mostly quiet rural location, not too much traffic.

in the near past we lived in a ‘smart’ location, terrible traffic with bad drivers and noisy teenagers

Capitulatingpanda · 01/05/2023 17:08

Ours are pretty nice especially our direct neighbours although at RA meetings a few of the people in the nearby houses get into it over petty shit.

Erex · 01/05/2023 17:10

No, because I won't buy a house that isn't detached without adjoining gardens! I don't want to risk bad neighbours, so take the risk away by only living where there are no immediate neighbours. 😂

Newhobbybaker · 01/05/2023 17:12

I have no neighbours (and never will have any).

Maray1967 · 01/05/2023 17:14

We have great neighbours both sides - very longstanding. We all take parcels in when needed and allow scaffolding up for their work when necessary - we’ve all done that. We share spare keys with the ones we’re joined to and when all our DC were kids and away with us, we’d buy bread and milk for each other the day they /we were due back. We get on well with the folks across the road as well - we are very lucky.

UsingChangeofName · 01/05/2023 17:19

Can't vote as can't work out what you are asking if YABU about or not.

I've never had neighbour problems, in any of the places I've lived.

As has been said, threads don't really represent the whole picture. People start a thread if there is an issue they either want to ask advice about or just rant about. It's like the relationships board - nobody starts a thread to say "dh and I have just had another ordinary weekend - no abuse, no drama, no fall out. Both just being general pleasant and going about our own lives". If you took the relationship board as a reflection of life, you'd have a very skewed idea of how the world goes round for the overwhelming majority of people the overwhelming majority of time. Its the same with neighbour disputes.

Timesawastin · 01/05/2023 17:22

All of us in our street get on. Give and take and a willingness to communicate especially any proposed works is key. Most of us have lived here a long time, longest more than 50 years.

Mary46 · 01/05/2023 17:25

Parking and big dogs off lead. Tatty gardens and gutters which they dont sort so it pulls our gutter down. No big fallouts. My neighbour fell out with the next door it does make life tense for all.

Hoppinggreen · 01/05/2023 17:28

No, all fine here and some are actually really nice.
We aren’t all in each others business but we exchange Xmas cards, ask to borrow things such as eggs or similar and help with cat feeding during holidays.
I like it

cansu · 01/05/2023 17:28

No. We have lived here for 8 years now and have never had to complain nor have they ever complained to us. They are both quiet, keep to themselves.