Angry about CM

[PeriPipkin82]

My ex & I separated 13 months ago, we weren’t married & have 1 child together. I have asked him to sort maintenance privately which he was fine with & paid £300 a month however it was sporadic so I thought it best to go through official lines so CMS..he is a Director of a a Ltd company & draws down no dividends, wages or shares so now DWP have told me that he can pay zero. I asked DWP to check his Ltd company as he earns a lot of money but because there is no individual tax payment they cannot pursue it as a Ltd company is an individual tax entity so cannot do anything about it. I explained this to him & he said oh well maybe you should have been happy before..can I do anything?

I had a similar issue. Ex was paying £270 per month but was becoming more and more sporadic. After the new year I got annoyed so put a child maintenance claim in. Turns out as ex is self employed builder and hadn't put things through the books they worked out he owes the grand total of £7 per week ( despite me knowing he earns between £500-700 per week ). Wish I had never bothered putting the claim in now as he has never paid a penny since.

OP, how is this 'really not important'? Are you sufficiently well off that this won't have a negative effect on your DC's lives?

Tell him it's such a shame you feel our child isn't worth contributing for. He/She deserves the world, they really do. It's sad you don't see their worth and are happy to let them go without.

Because that is the message sent when a parent doesn't financially support their own child. If it were up to them their child would starve and have nothing. Don't be afraid to be honest with people either that he doesn't want to contribute to his child and has better things to spend his money on.

whatever the legalities are

head. Wall. Bang

Shame that posters have given detailed advice to the OP, waste of time.

I'm so sorry op I was in the exact same position for years and yes men in this position get away with it over and over and over again. The CMS would do nothing and he had a nil award for years despite me sending proof of how much the house was he was renting how much he was paying to rent a luxury car etc. It's disgusting it happens but happen it does.

50/50

Not something I’d ever bluff about in case he said yes.

Not many mothers would be happy with 50/50. And there are countless threads by mothers desperately sad that their ex has 50/50

do you have children out of interest?

Can you clarify where you are at with your CM application. Have you applied and its come back with a minimum amount? The next stage is to request both a mandatory reconsideration and a variation (because you dont believe his income is as stated). All they will do at this stage is look at the HMRC figures in more detail but this is the stage you have to go through.

Once you have done that which will likely come back with the same figures originally stated, then you can make a request to their Financial Investigation Unit who will then look into his finance in more detail. But you cant do this until you complete the above stages. Its in your and your childrens best interests to do this.