To feel a bit upset nobody will spoil me for my 40th?

[ClemFandango1]

I know I'm being mopey, but I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself.
Always assumed by the time I was 40 I'd have a partner to go somewhere special with, and money to do something special.

Instead I'm a single mum of two under 10s with no career.

I'd love to be taken away, have a massage booked for me, a birthday tea somewhere lovely, and to receive a replacement necklace (I lost a beloved pendant a couple of years ago and I miss it dreadfully).

I will go out with my parents!
But feeling a bit sad.

Or just sit in Wetherspoons all day
getting gradually more trollied on red
wine and snog a random

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Have a nice meal with kids and parents, book yourself a massage maybe ask parents for massage voucher with a childcare voucher for them to have kids one Saturday afternoon so you can use it.
Put a little bit away every month towards you'd necklace . Can you work it so you can get it by Christmas?
And do 2 things every week that take you towards better job, send emails, do research and get applying or get work experience/advice

I hope you have a lovely birthday. Is it in May?

Hi op go to www.juvidesigns.com and order yourself a pendant. It's 30% off today with the code MAYDAY30
I don't work for them! Just saw the offer this morning.

I understand, OP. Just having someone who holds you in mind, who thinks '@ClemFandango1 would love this' and then organises/buys it for you. Your children will do this, in time, but it's hard at the moment. And all PPs who think adult birthdays aren't important, you do you. @ClemFandango1 would like to celebrate hers, and have others celebrate it too.

I hope you have a fabulous birthday 🎂

I am married and my partner makes zero fuss. He doesn't see the value in doing something like this for someone else. It's a very lonely place.

But i am learning to value myself. Agree with the other posters. Go and buy the jewellery. Organise a night out with friends. A good friend, her husband works away. She sent out a message to join her in our local for her 40th. Loads came and we had a great girls night. Nothing wild. Just all together in beer garden. I wish I organised that for myself. I just didn't think to do it for myself.

Think what you would like to do. And organise it. Don't be fooled because you have a partner they would do it for you.

Have an amazing birthday x

My DH was away having a fat old time and achieving the highlight of his career, so he entirely forgot my 40th bday. I was looking after our three little kids and he came back after 27 weeks away and still had his head up his arse. He had bought the kids all kinds of touristy paraphernalia from the event he had been to and I hadn’t even received a card when he unpacked his suitcase. The kids asked what he had bought for mummy and he said that I wouldn’t have been interested. They asked what he had bought me for my birthday, then…. (Loyal little cherubs) and he said “I rang her didn’t !?” I said that he had phoned but had forgotten that it was my birthday entirely and frankly I thought on the day I had never felt so lonely, but now he was back he had exceeded himself.
While it sucks being single, there are worse things.

Much better to be happy single to be in an awful relationship, like so many women on MN.

You have lots to celebrate: kids, parents, friends.

I'd either go out with friends for an afternoon tea or arrange a bottomless Prosecco at your house with friends. Have a lovely day!

Lots of people would be happy with 2 children and parents.

Some people have nobody.

I always arrange my own birthday and have a great time. I spoil myself because I’m worth it. Plan something lovely with your DC and parents.

I was two days out of a refuge for my 40th. In lockdown.
I have 3 kids and bought myself some cheap crap from home bargains so they wouldn't think nobody cared on my birthday they never questioned where it came from.