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Original poster

WhatsApp.... unread message, one tick, last seen over 24 hours ago..

28 replies

origins · 30/04/2023 10:17

Strange one.
I've been chatting to a man via WhatsApp.a message or two every day.
He has been very keen.
He messaged me yesterday morning to say hello and what plans were for the day and to ask if I'd slept well etc.
I replied.
His WhatsApp is showing one grey tick.
He hasn't been on since before my reply.
I'm not blocked.
His activity is much more usually.
What's going on here ?
Lack of interest ????

OP posts:
sylvandweller · 30/04/2023 10:26

Chill out.

It's been one day.

melj1213 · 30/04/2023 10:28

If the message you sent is showing one grey tick then he hasn't received it - one tick is that you've sent it, two ticks is that it's been received and the ticks turning blue shows the message has been read by the recipient.

If he hasn't received your message it could be from either end - your phone may not have sent it correctly, his may not have received it correctly; of one or other of you are travelling then your phone may have been in a signal dead spot when the message was sent so it hasn't completed correctly etc - so why not just send a second message as a follow up? I get it occasionally with friends, we'll be chatting through the evening and then suddenly someone will take ages to reply, so I'll go into WhatsApp and see my message wasn't received so I'll send another message and it will "push through" both messages and my friend will receive them together.

He may have sent the "hey how are you?" message and on not receiving a reply has assumed you're busy/not up for chatting and decided not to push you by sending another message, assuming you don't want to chat and is waiting for you to respond, so I'd just try and send another message and see if it goes through.

Mustardandchickensandwiches · 30/04/2023 10:29

Any messages sent to a contact who has blocked you will always show one check mark (message sent), and never show a second check mark (message delivered). Any calls you attempt to place will not go through.

WhatsApp help center

Original poster
origins · 30/04/2023 10:31

Thanks.
Yes but if you're blocked you cannot see last online or profile pic and I can see both .
It hasn't been read and I sent another and that's the same ... one grey tick.
We text over and back a bit every day so it's unusual eap
As he has been keen.

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Coffeeandcards · 30/04/2023 10:34

I’m guessing either he’s dropped his phone down the loo, or he had another date yesterday and turned his phone off so messages from other girls wouldn’t come through.

Shoelacesundone · 30/04/2023 10:35

Battery died or phone damaged or WiFi cut off or ran out of data....

Could be he blocked you then unblocked you...so you're not blocked now but when you sent the message you were and he thought better of it?

The most probable answer is that he's not a sincere bloke, is busy with other people, plus gets a kick out of seeing your hysterical, anxious or angry reactions.....which he'll then throw back in your face.

Summer2424 · 30/04/2023 10:43

Hi @origins i think it's got to be his phone not being connected to a wifi and he hasn't switched his mobile data on x

ilovesooty · 30/04/2023 10:44

You could always phone him if you want to know

Radical suggestion of course

Or just bin him and move on. He'll get in touch if he's interested I suppose.

Ingrowncrotchhair · 30/04/2023 10:45

Phone stolen or dropped down the loo as suggested could be reasons

Lostinalibrary · 30/04/2023 10:54

Shoelacesundone · 30/04/2023 10:35

Battery died or phone damaged or WiFi cut off or ran out of data....

Could be he blocked you then unblocked you...so you're not blocked now but when you sent the message you were and he thought better of it?

The most probable answer is that he's not a sincere bloke, is busy with other people, plus gets a kick out of seeing your hysterical, anxious or angry reactions.....which he'll then throw back in your face.

That’s a massive leap! Or he could be in an internet black spot as I was yesterday and I was awoken by stacks of messages this morning! Projecting issues with men much!

Fighterofthenightman1 · 30/04/2023 11:09

His phone or Internet must be off

Have you tried calling him?

lljkk · 30/04/2023 11:16

He's been agonising over last week that he appears too keen & you'll be put off if he keeps being too responsive, need to play it cool to keep himself appealing. As likely as any other scenario.

Go out & enjoy the sun & rest of your life today, instead.

MsInsomniac · 30/04/2023 11:21

He’s married. Been messaging you during working week but weekends are family time, he’s turned his phone off so his wife doesn’t hear texts arriving.

Bexx87 · 30/04/2023 11:25

Dating can be volatile. People can act strange and change their behaviour very suddenly. I wouldn't do anything about it and certainly wouldn't message. No doubt he's playing you and will get in touch with some random excuse when he feels like it. Just play it cool.

Phoenix9 · 30/04/2023 11:52

Could just be internet issues.
My whole village is down on internet this morning, not expected back until 7pm.
He could not have enough data, or equally data maybe difficult too (like mine this morning)

Bunnichick · 30/04/2023 11:54

It hasn't been that long

he could be without Internet or battery

strawberryfluff · 30/04/2023 11:57

Maybe he died in the night?

GoodChat · 30/04/2023 12:00

strawberryfluff · 30/04/2023 11:57

Maybe he died in the night?

Why would that stop his messages being delivered? Your phone doesn't die when you do.

Deadpalm · 30/04/2023 12:01

MsInsomniac · 30/04/2023 11:21

He’s married. Been messaging you during working week but weekends are family time, he’s turned his phone off so his wife doesn’t hear texts arriving.

Or aliens. I don't think there is network in outer space

GracieGracieGracie · 30/04/2023 12:06

Chill. Seriously.

strawberryfluff · 30/04/2023 12:09

GoodChat · 30/04/2023 12:00

Why would that stop his messages being delivered? Your phone doesn't die when you do.

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Does if the phone was involved in the accident too

Original poster
origins · 30/04/2023 12:10

God OLD has been the greatest lesson I've ever learned about men..
Is it fair to call ourselves naive when we actually take what they say with a good intention.
Regardless of this man... I've learned that the second they bring up sex or anything sexually related , block.
The moment they say they're coparenting and living togethe , block.
The moment they go quiet after 5pm until 10pm.. again block.
That is of course , unless you want a married man with no strings sex.
Hindsight has unfortunately been everything g for me.

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MolkosTeenageAngst · 30/04/2023 12:11

He’s not received the messages. Why is anybody’s guess. Could be internet issues on either end. He could have switched his phone off, put it on airplane mode or it could have been accidentally broken or stolen etc. You can’t really make any assumptions at this point after only 24 hours, you probably just have to wait and see and then trust your gut if he comes back to you with an excuse as to whether he’s being truthful or not. Nobody here can do that for you.

Namechange666 · 30/04/2023 12:31

Too much worrying for one night. You need a thicker skin for OLD.

VeronicaTimeTurner · 30/04/2023 16:09

strawberryfluff · 30/04/2023 11:57

Maybe he died in the night?

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