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Dinosaurdrip · 2023-04-29T06:46:49+00:00

Took a parcel in for neighbour yesterday morning, they got home in the afternoon around 2pm and didn't knock on to collect it. Didn't think much of it except that it was in the way of me getting pram out but not a massive issue. We went out around 6.30pm and didn't get back till about 11 so unsure if they tried to collect in this time. The CF only knocked on my door at 7.30 this morning to get it. That's rude right? 7.30 on a Saturday morning, I wouldn't dare.

SchoolTripDrama · 30/04/2023 09:58

shysquirrel · 29/04/2023 08:56

I don't think it's too early. You knew they were in but chose not to take it to them when you knew you'd be out all evening. I think that's the risk you took, to be honest.

Excuse you?? OP did the neighbour a favour! She didn't take any 'risk' ffs! I'd be FUMING if a neighbour banged on my door before 9am on any day of the week, especially on a weekend. It's the only lie I get

CurlewKate · 30/04/2023 10:20

I need to know why the OP didn't take the parcel across or text and ask them to collect it at some point in the 4 hours between them coming home and her going out.

Stressyfab · 30/04/2023 10:32

I’d be livid!
this thread did just prompt me to drop off a massive nespresso order to the neighbours though that’s been sat in my doorway for 24 hours! I know they’re home because I can hear them 🤷‍♀️ Didn’t answer the door so I’ve left it outside 🙄
that being said I’m glad they didn’t ring at 7.30!

Snugglemonkey · 30/04/2023 10:50

I would not answer the door to them. I think it is really rude and would tell them next time they came to get it that I am not getting out of bed at that time for anyone.

Reugny · 30/04/2023 10:53

Missingmyusername · 29/04/2023 08:11

I wouldn’t knock at 7.30, however
“We went out around 6.30pm and didn't get back till about 11 so unsure if they tried to collect in this time. “🙈 Maybe they did.

Don’t take parcels in again. 🤷🏼‍♀️

If I take a parcel I then watch out for the neighbour and take it over- if possible. Though I did once take in a parcel of fish, I didn’t know it was fish and put it near to a radiator which was in. Just didn’t think… neighbour not so happy.

That was the senders fault not either of yours.

I have had that issue with garden plants were the sender hasn't put live plants on the outside. The plants end up being stored somewhere they die before I get them.

TheSnowyOwl · 30/04/2023 10:54

Given you were aware of the time they got home, why didn’t you either go round with it or ask them to come to collect?

JustFrustrated · 30/04/2023 10:56

CurlewKate · 30/04/2023 10:20

I need to know why the OP didn't take the parcel across or text and ask them to collect it at some point in the 4 hours between them coming home and her going out.

Most obvious reasons that spring to mind

She doesn't have her neighbours number to text. Not remotely uncommon scenario.

She's identified that she has young children at home, so we know immediately from this information that popping out, even to the neighbours, is only possible if her partner is also home.

Didn't take much brain power to think of two very obvious reasons.

And thirdly, actually it's the parcel owners responsibility to collect said parcel. Not hers.

Truestorypeeps · 30/04/2023 10:57

PuppyMonkey · 29/04/2023 09:04

I know this goes against all the rules of MN parcel threads, but when you saw they were home yesterday afternoon and knowing you had their package blocking your hall and you were going out later, could you maybe have gone to their house and given them the package?

This to be honest. Or if it was too heavy for you, just ring their doorbell and ask them to come and get it. However, I do think it was lazy of them to not retrieve it straight away - you aren't a storage service.

7.30am is far too early to disturb people on the weekend. 9am at a absolute push, 10am better.

CurlewKate · 30/04/2023 11:04

@JustFrustrated
Surely everyone has their neighbour's mobile or landline number?

And yes, it is their responsibility. But oh, I am soooo glad I don't live in your world!

CurlewKate · 30/04/2023 11:16

Just though-I wonder how many of the outraged "they are definitely CFs how very dare they?" brigade are on politics/feminism/racist threads wondering why people "seem to be looking for something to be offended by. Because this is the physical manifestation of that!

mainsfed · 30/04/2023 11:16

CurlewKate · 30/04/2023 11:04

@JustFrustrated
Surely everyone has their neighbour's mobile or landline number?

And yes, it is their responsibility. But oh, I am soooo glad I don't live in your world!

Er, no.

My lovely neighbours come over as soon as reasonably possible to collect their parcel, and vice versa. I don’t need their number.

mainsfed · 30/04/2023 11:17

CurlewKate · 30/04/2023 11:16

Just though-I wonder how many of the outraged "they are definitely CFs how very dare they?" brigade are on politics/feminism/racist threads wondering why people "seem to be looking for something to be offended by. Because this is the physical manifestation of that!

OP isn’t offended, she’s annoyed her kids were women up at 7.30 on a Saturday by an inconsiderate twat of a neighbour, and rightly so.

StripeyDeckchair · 30/04/2023 11:33

The rules re parcels chez the Deckchair household

if you take it in, they collect it ASAP or leave a note/text explaining why they can't eg away
it is the parcel owners responsibility to collect it, not yours to deliver it
before 9am is too early
After 8pm is too late unless preceeded by a text & your agreement
if its large/awkward or has been with you for day's then it's OK for you to put it in the shed or garage out of the way (I had a parcel for 9 days that was in a 2mx1m x.5m box, it was in the garage all the time & they complained. I sent all further deliveries for them away. They complained about that too, I explained EXACTLY why I sent it all away.)

JustFrustrated · 30/04/2023 11:52

CurlewKate · 30/04/2023 11:04

@JustFrustrated
Surely everyone has their neighbour's mobile or landline number?

And yes, it is their responsibility. But oh, I am soooo glad I don't live in your world!

Not at all the case.

I only ever had one neighbours number, a lovely old woman's. That was for a very unusual reason I had that too.

I've never before, or since, had my neighbours number.

I'm not unusual in that respect.

I've moved heaven and highwater for my current neighbours. I've flooded my garden for them, climbed their roof in a torrential downpour, done tip runs, had a glass of wine over the fence with them. But never exchanged numbers.

Reugny · 30/04/2023 12:02

Surely everyone has their neighbour's mobile or landline number?

Nope.

Both myself and most people who live in a city have a few neighbours e.g. an entire part of a street who can take a parcel in for them.

Stripedbag101 · 30/04/2023 12:21

CurlewKate · 30/04/2023 11:04

@JustFrustrated
Surely everyone has their neighbour's mobile or landline number?

And yes, it is their responsibility. But oh, I am soooo glad I don't live in your world!

This is silly!! Of course not everyone has their neighbours phone numbers!!

we all live in the same bloody world. You are crazy if you think you can control who your neighbours are and what relationship you will have with them. Your next door neighbours could sell tomorrow to people who don’t have a land line, don’t want to give you their number and glare at you if look it heir direction!!!

that smug superiority could vanish overnight

DancingWithTheMoonlitKnight · 30/04/2023 12:25

I would have taken it round before I went out.

PuppyMonkey · 30/04/2023 13:56

I agree with you @DancingWithTheMoonlitKnight but I know it breaks an important MN convention that under no circumstances must you be the one to take a parcel around to a neighbour. You must keep it until the neighbour comes and collects even if it means you hang onto it for 25 years and/or it permanently blocks access to your stairs.

StrawBeretMoose · 30/04/2023 17:28

CurlewKate · 30/04/2023 11:16

Just though-I wonder how many of the outraged "they are definitely CFs how very dare they?" brigade are on politics/feminism/racist threads wondering why people "seem to be looking for something to be offended by. Because this is the physical manifestation of that!

I hardly know anyone who even has a landline, and don't have any neighbours' phone numbers.

StrawBeretMoose · 30/04/2023 17:30

Sorry I've quoted the wrong reply. I meant the bit about phone numbers.

shysquirrel · 30/04/2023 19:02

DancingWithTheMoonlitKnight · 30/04/2023 12:25

I would have taken it round before I went out.

Ah, but then your neighbour wouldn't have to guess when you were in and it would make it way less dramatic!

Original poster

Dinosaurdrip · 01/05/2023 15:00

Just to answer a few questions......I could have taken their parcel round to them however as I said it was heavy and bulky and I have a 3 month old baby so couldn't leave them alone or carry it with the baby.

We constantly take parcels in for them as I WFH (on mat leave at present) and they have always come and collected when they got home.

They were not going out to work or going away, they were going out with their dogs for a walk.

I think it was tins of protein powder or something so i dont think it was time sensitive and I assume it could have waited till theu came back from their walk.

Am more or less over it now although still a tiny bit salty because as luck would have it I was up at 5 yesterday and this morning qith DD so even just lying in bed relaxing wasn't an option.

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Bucketheadbucketbum · 01/05/2023 15:27

I can't believe anyone would ever call on someone unexpectedly on a weekend at 730am

That's ridiculously rude, never take a parcel for them again!

Did you say anything?