To check in on dating status so soon?

[Hari223]

Met a guy recently OLD and we've been on three great dates. We have a fourth planned for next week - he will come round to mine and I think we will sleep together for the first time, feel pretty good about this/looking forward to it. He has appeared super keen, always booking in next date before the current one has finished and has talked a lot about things he wants to do together (we share a lot of interests). OTOH I know he has done a lot of casual dating recently, we've talked openly about that (past experiences rather than women he's currently seeing), and we met on Tinder which as I understand it is more oriented towards casual dating.

My plan is to ask him on this next date (assuming the sex is good!) whether he sees this going anywhere or wants it to be a casual thing only - if the latter then that's OK but I'll probably stop seeing him because I tend to catch feelings for people I really click with after a while, and think I might have already. I'm not asking him to be serious/exclusive already, just checking whether that's ruled out. Is it too soon? AIBU?

Personally I'd say it's a bit too soon, maybe wait another date or two.
Just my opinion though, I'm sure others will say differently.

If you “catch feelings” (which is a weird way of putting it when you’re actively looking for a relationship) I would not have sex with him until you know where you stand. Especially if you think he might be dating (and shagging?) other people. I’d wait a couple more dates to talk about exclusivity, then ask when he last had an STI test, then have sex.

Your life, your body, your heart. Why on earth would it be a bad thing to ask a question that means you can protect these things?
Before you sleep with someone you absolutely should know their intentions. You can then make an informed decision, whether that’s casual sex and a bit of fun or the beginning of something that will hopefully continue to grow.

Keep it light but do discuss it op.

personally I’d never ask. Always let them clarify the relationship and if they’re not silence is also an answer. Sleeping with him this early is probably not a great idea. Four dates is nothing if you met him on OLD

Thanks everyone. I'm not "actively looking for a relationship" but exploring different possibilities, its just that with this guy I feel like it could go somewhere. Probably wouldn't have the chat before sex because if that side of things doesn't work out its a mute/moot (never know how to spell that...) point anyway

I wouldn’t have sex unless they were thinking that personality wise we were compatible and that side of things had legs. But do what works for you