AIBU to immediately start to step away post notice handing in

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Hi all, handed my notice in at my current role - its a long notice period (c.3 months) - truth be told its a role thats caused me a lot of stress and I really dislike it. I can feel myself getting incredibly stressed still by things and very much invested (working late starting early) on projects that I won't really see fruition of.

There are no plans to replace me, business have been open, so the only person I have to handover to are my subordinates. There is also no scope to reduce my notice period.

AIBU to begin to step away from now despite the long notice period
a) because the stress is still really getting to me
b) because the team are going to have to learn to perform without me there after I leave, so they need to start getting used to it

YABU - its three months, you need to keep pitching in to the level you were before

YANBU - immediately start handing things over

Most people I know start to do less once they've handed in their notice, even when leaving on good terms. If you are as stressed as you say you are have you considered asking the doctor to sign you off for work related stress?

I was in a very very stressful, busy role a few years ago. Even when I handed in my notice I gave my all, as I wanted to leave on a good note.

3 months is a long time to start winding down.

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I’m in exactly the same situation.
My health and well-being has taken an absolute battering from this role so I’ve handed in my notice. Three month notice period. I’ve decided to work my contracted hours, do what I can but I refuse to get overly stressed or anxious about projects beyond what I can do day to day in the hours given to me. Im certainly stopping pulling all nighters and skipping lunch to work…

Yes I’d definitely start handing things over… say you want to do a “gradual handover” so you can provide support before you leave 😁

I had a three month notice period from a job I was desperate to get out of too. It seems like a long time, but it will pass quickly.

Do you have any annual leave accrued that you can bolt onto the end to reduce the time?

Can you speak to HR about leaving earlier? I remember that my HR representative said that they'd rather someone left early than stay and be totally miserable and unhelpful. I only stayed because I was going freelance and needed the £££!

If not, 100% step away. Check out as much as possible and don't feel bad about it AT ALL. The business does not care about you, your boss doesn't care about you and they can moan about you behind your back for stepping back, but WHO CARES.

Be a 'bad' employee if you want, as long as you don't make life hard for anyone else or hurt anyone.

Why do you have to leave on a good note?

(I've been slightly radicalised after years in toxic companies....)

Agree with all this

have also been radicalised after not being treated well. Work doesn’t care about you. It’s an exchange. They want the most out of you for the least on their part.

Do you need your boss for a reference?

I love working notice. You're basically untouchable. WFH as much as you can and let things go.

Are you sure there's no option to negotiate your notice down? I negotiated mine down to 2 months in a similar sitch. If they aren't replacing you, what does it matter if it's two months or three? They're going to have to learn to get along without you, so best they get on with it sooner rather than later.

Most people I know who have to give around 3 months notice most certainly decrease their effort as the notice period progresses!

The right answer is - keep up the good work

the realistic answer is - you’re not going to do that, it’s only natural. Why not say to the team you’re going to start to be more hands off to prepare them for working without you. You’ll still be there to steer and guide but this will start the transition