Laser quest dilemma !

Helpimafish1 · 2023-04-27T21:55:01+00:00

Took my 9 year old to centre parc this week before I’m judged on the whole school week situation, she could not go this week due to staff awaiting training on some medical equipment. anyway 🤣 I will try to explain the scenario the best I can So say you were playing laser quest , and the last game is not teams but individual. You are all stood in a large circle and can’t move from your spot and you have 10 lives ( 10 times to be shot ) You have your friend one side of you and the other side your 9 year old, then there is around 17 other people to shoot. your shooting well you have taken out 8 people in a row and the rest have all been taken out by others apart from your child 🙈so the only people left is you and your child who has one life. Do you shoot or not shoot ? 🤣

zurala · 27/04/2023 22:56

I'd let my child kill me.

Blanketpolicy · 27/04/2023 22:58

9 yr old? Yes, if I am quicker I'd shoot.

MaltedCow · 27/04/2023 22:59

Oh I'd definitely shoot 😂

Hellocatshome · 27/04/2023 23:00

Depends on the child's personality. DS1 at 9 I would have shot him and we would have both laughed about it. DS2 at 9 I would let him shoot me.

Heroicallyfound · 27/04/2023 23:01

My child would shoot me before I’d had time to give it any thought! He’s speedy

murasaki · 27/04/2023 23:17

Shoot.

But then when I was a kid my dad fast bowled me when I only had a plastic cricket bat. Competitive dad from the fast show right there.

I am truly his daughter.

ReginaTheEvilQueen · 27/04/2023 23:22

Shoot, always shoot

L1ttledrummergirl · 27/04/2023 23:51

I'd shoot, dd would shoot quicker.

KrisAkabusi · 28/04/2023 00:58

Shoot him, and then shoot him again in the face so he knows who shot him!

Stompythedinosaur · 28/04/2023 02:01

I'd shoot, but I probably wouldn't try my hardest.

fUNNYfACE36 · 28/04/2023 07:10

Try your best for big kids like that maybe not for little 4 year olds

SkankingWombat · 28/04/2023 07:24

Hellocatshome · 27/04/2023 23:00

Depends on the child's personality. DS1 at 9 I would have shot him and we would have both laughed about it. DS2 at 9 I would let him shoot me.

This, but with the DCs reversed for me. I would go for it with DC2, 50/50 chance of me winning, everyone happy regardless of the outcome. I would aim badly and throw the game with DC1 as she's sensitive and feels she never wins anything. Winning would make her ridiculously happy, whilst there is a very good chance she would cry at coming so close and not quite making it, particularly if it was me who pipped her. She has plenty of experience of losing or just missing out on 1st place through her sport, so it isn't like she needs more of that to make her a more rounded person DC2 could do with losing a bit more though .

Franklin2000 · 28/04/2023 07:26

Ds1 I would shoot because he’d find it funny and is much quicker than me so chances are he’s shoot me first anyway. Ds2, no way, he’d be devastated! I’d take the hit from him.

Blanketpolicy · 28/04/2023 11:22

SkankingWombat · 28/04/2023 07:24

This, but with the DCs reversed for me. I would go for it with DC2, 50/50 chance of me winning, everyone happy regardless of the outcome. I would aim badly and throw the game with DC1 as she's sensitive and feels she never wins anything. Winning would make her ridiculously happy, whilst there is a very good chance she would cry at coming so close and not quite making it, particularly if it was me who pipped her. She has plenty of experience of losing or just missing out on 1st place through her sport, so it isn't like she needs more of that to make her a more rounded person DC2 could do with losing a bit more though .

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ime you need to be very careful with the approach of letting them win to make them happy/avoid them feeling bad.

Kids as they get older are cleverer than we think. At 9 I would expect they know when they are consistently being allowed to win and end up linking being allowed to win with love/caring and losing with negative feelings from the other person which is not healthy. Longer term they respect honesty and support dealing with losing. But it is a difficult balance.

SkankingWombat · 28/04/2023 17:07

Blanketpolicy · 28/04/2023 11:22

ime you need to be very careful with the approach of letting them win to make them happy/avoid them feeling bad.

Kids as they get older are cleverer than we think. At 9 I would expect they know when they are consistently being allowed to win and end up linking being allowed to win with love/caring and losing with negative feelings from the other person which is not healthy. Longer term they respect honesty and support dealing with losing. But it is a difficult balance.

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Don't worry, I'm a good actor! I also have no qualms about giving her a firm thrashing at family card/board games 😬 However, as I said, she has much experience of "always" coming second (it isn't always, but she's very fixated on it and does have more silver medals than all others combined to be fair) as well as plenty of experience of not winning/failing/disqualifications. Therefore, if I was presented with the opportunity to afford her a little joy in that department, I'd give it. It isn't something that would be happening daily