Feeling quite fragile so please be kind but I am at the end of my tether with how to deal with my child.
For context I have 3 other children, youngest is 1.5y.o so no newborn baby suddenly added. No family bereavement. Nothing changed in family dynamics
But my 6 year old daughter is taking shampoo, toothpaste, toilet roll and wrecking it. She pours it all out over her floor which is stained and now starting to stink. She will pour it over toys. She's taken nappy cream before and rubs it over her walls. (Bathrooms have now been padlocked during the day but I need them open during the night for other children)
She's stolen makeup from me before and used it on her walls.
She will take jewellery from my room and hide it under her bed. (My room also gets blocked off but again there may be an hour here or there where I've forgotten)
Just now found a massive puddle of water, toothpaste and an empty can of juice (which she's admitted she stole from her friends house) but it's all mushed together in a huge mess.
We went on holiday and visited the soft play there. She stole lip balm from another table, she stole hair bobbles and clips from the same table.
She's stolen pens from school, water bottles from other children (all handed back in).
I have (on Wednesday) spoken to her class teacher who says she's very shocked to hear about this behaviour as she's a model pupil, always first to tidy up (never does at home lol) she's very set on having the routine and knowing it's done in order but the teacher did note my daughter really struggles with concentration most days (fidgets, will often stop doing class work and go sit in the toilets, interrupts convos) which I've seen in her for a while
My mum says I need to "kick her ass" but won't define what she means (helpful mum.)
Where do I go from here? I'm crying as I write this ☹️