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Am I crazy to think we can do both these things in one year?

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doritocheese · 27/04/2023 17:44

Marry and buy a house

Unsure if I am crazy for house hunting at the same time as trying to plan a wedding… we’re only eloping so not sure whether to put that off in order to buy a house. Has anyone successfully managed to do the both without too much stress?

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IhearyouClemFandango · 27/04/2023 17:45

If you can afford it then of course. Getting married doesn't have to be stressful. Houses are less in your control, but 🤷

Morethanalittletired · 27/04/2023 17:47

I did, and it was fine. Moved in May, got married in August. Mind, that was a while back and pre DC. Not sure I'd manage it now.

Ponoka7 · 27/04/2023 17:48

If you are eloping then the wedding shouldn't be stressful. It doesn't have to be even if you aren't. The stressful part of house buying is getting the offer accepted and the mortgage offer made. If you are over stretching yourself then extra work because of the survey etc is stress, but again that can be within your control. There'll be weeks were you won't have to do anything. Just make sure that your solicitor is reliable and not just cheap.

GoldenGorilla · 27/04/2023 17:49

Weddings are as big a deal as you choose to make them: we got married on 4 weeks’ notice, while both working full time in stressful jobs. So I really don’t see why you couldn’t move in the same year.

skgnome · 27/04/2023 17:51

If you’re eloping then in theory there should be no pressure or expense. So yes pretty manageable

Ballinluig · 27/04/2023 17:51

We signed our new house the day before we got married, about 2 hours before the rehearsal! Moved in a month after the honeymoon, and we both started new jobs, managed it all no bother! Oh, and got a new kitten!

cadburyegg · 27/04/2023 17:51

Yes my ex and I bought a house together 4 months after we got married.

He is an ex now though. !

AccidentallyFabulous · 27/04/2023 17:53

It probably depends on your starting point, especially with the house.

DH and I got engaged in April, bought a house together and married at the beginning of September of the same year, so did both in five months.

But we were both renting and had very uncomplicated financial situations, and would have seen it as part and parcel of beginning our life together. We didn't live together before we were married.

UndercoverCop · 27/04/2023 17:54

We did, the house was a renovation project and then I fell pregnant a month after the wedding!!

shivawn · 27/04/2023 17:54

I know plenty people who have done this.

We got married a few years after buying our house. I had a pretty big wedding with 170 guests but I honestly didn't find the planning stressful at all. Buying a house the same year would have been no problem (assuming both were budgeted for) for I guess it depends on your own stress levels.

Echobelly · 27/04/2023 17:55

Absolutely in terms of time if you have the money aside... we ended up moving in two weeks before our wedding though! And our parents were paying for the most expensive parts of the wedding in our case.

Wishimaywishimight · 27/04/2023 17:57

We got married (abroad) 3 weeks after moving house!

bumpytrumpy · 27/04/2023 18:11

doritocheese · 27/04/2023 17:44

Marry and buy a house

Unsure if I am crazy for house hunting at the same time as trying to plan a wedding… we’re only eloping so not sure whether to put that off in order to buy a house. Has anyone successfully managed to do the both without too much stress?

Of course some people can. I got married, moved house, had a baby and major surgery within 12 months. However I also had no existing kids, little stuff to move, an easy job and no money worries.

However whether YOU can is a different question. If you're worrying about it already then perhaps not a good idea. People are different and have different tolerance to being busy. Also your current life is relevant - do you already have kids and a full on job?

Easterfunbun · 27/04/2023 18:12

Yeah, I eloped. Wasn’t stressful that’s what I did it.

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