So, a bit of background; My family have never been overwhelmingly supportive of me, I was the youngest of a very large family and kinda faced the brunt of it all when our parents were sick of being parents and had grown to resent eachother, when they split I was sent to live with my father, he was manipulative and abusive. I tried to reach out for help, my siblings had not experienced this side of him and so didn't support or believe me or do anything to help, I eventually emancipated myself as soon as I could and everyone was shocked and I was portrayed as some unruly and deluded teenager looking for attention, no one said it to my face, but it was clearly the outlook, I was the one who had to initiate the contact in order to reconnect with my siblings, it's always me who initiates the contact aside from birthdays, which I appreciate but, well, it's hard to discern what's genuine and what stems from feeling obligated. I'm now 32 weeks pregnant and I have told only one of them who didn't have a particularly good reaction, not the best but honestly not the worst, he said he wouldn't spread the news to the others and he hasn't. Tbh, my thoughts are that they haven't bothered to message me in all this time (since Christmas) so why should I, really? If you don't want to contact me, I don't want some fake care awarded to my child. Although I want my child to have as big a family network as possible, I'd rather surround them with genuine authentic people then a whole bunch of lies. The thing is with my family, they're not very direct to put it lightly, they don't seem to respond well to being faced with the truth it seems and prefer to pretend everything's alright and our family is normal. And the slightest bit of drama is blown into massive proportion, so me not telling them will be seen as massive. My mother has been supportive throughout my pregnancy and has been there for me, which I really appreciate, but she doesn't seem to understand me not telling my siblings. One of them sends threatening texts to me and my housemate on a regular occasion and they all talk, I would be a lot more inclined to tell the other of my siblings if I was sure it wouldn't get back to this one, I do not want him to know anything about my child. So, there's a lot of reasons I do not feel inclined to tell them, yet I actually really would be receptive to a relationship with some of them if they made an effort too, but I guess the question is at what cost. Most of them have not been unkind to my face, just fake and all intent on playing the game where we all pretend everything's okay. I know they'll probably reach out on my next birthday. Do I say when they ask what I've been up to, "oh you know, the usual, having a baby.." should I reach out and let them know before my child is here? Am I being unreasonable to have not done so?