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To be annoyed at DH and DD before bed

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Postingforafriend1 · 26/04/2023 19:36

I do DD 2 bed time each night as part of her routine, upstairs, pj's, cuddle, story bed. Happy days. Tonight I sent her downstairs to get a Nappy, she went down and got the Nappy, DH saw her and decided to play football with her, I told him to not wind her up before bed as getting her to bed will be a nightmare do he sent her back upstairs and as she was halfway up he started chasing her up the stairs tthen started to play hide and seek, obviously when DH went downstairs she wanted to go down with him and play, hence DH moaning she should be in bed. Now she is lively, wanting to play and refusing to come up stairs, DH is now in a strop that he's got stuff to do and DD is jumping around like a lunatic.

AIBU to smile to myself, not get involved and tell him I told you so?

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misskatamari · 26/04/2023 19:38

Yanbu. What a Wally he is! I’d be taking myself out for a walk and letting him deal with it!

mamabear715 · 26/04/2023 19:38

Ah, definitely not AIBU! :-)

BHRK · 26/04/2023 19:39

My only question is why are you the only one doing her bedtime? Surely these jobs are shared?

Lcb123 · 26/04/2023 19:40

hes playing with his daughter, I’d really pick your battles

Eggseggseverywhere · 26/04/2023 19:41

Bedtime isn't playtime

Soozikinzii · 26/04/2023 19:43

I know this is annoying but it is nice that he wants to have fun with her . Explain that it makes it more difficult to settle her down . He could take a turn at bedtimes now and then .

Boughtitdownthemarket · 26/04/2023 19:44

Just tell him he can put her to bed now.

EscapeRoomToTheSun · 26/04/2023 19:45

Lcb123 · 26/04/2023 19:40

hes playing with his daughter, I’d really pick your battles

good lord how low are your expectations

EscapeRoomToTheSun · 26/04/2023 19:46

50:50 bedtimes have saved my marriage tbh. Use this as a jumping off point for that.

HarrietStyles · 26/04/2023 19:50

My husband does this sometimes and it drives me mad. He gets home 30 minutes before bedtime while I am mid calming them down, bath, reading, bed, the usual. I once kicked off at him and he explained that he just wanted to be the fun Dad that he never had growing up. His Dad worked late and never saw him before bed, never really played with him much. And so I try to grit my teeth now!

Mumoftwoinprimary · 26/04/2023 19:51

EscapeRoomToTheSun · 26/04/2023 19:45

good lord how low are your expectations

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Agree. Playing is the easiest bit of parenting.

Franklin2000 · 26/04/2023 20:03

Lcb123 · 26/04/2023 19:40

hes playing with his daughter, I’d really pick your battles

But he’s now moaning DD is not in bed and he has stuff to do! Sounds like his own fault op! DH will do this when he hasn’t seen DS all day but he has the common sense to then do some wind down time with him.

MysteryBelle · 26/04/2023 20:19

This is such a common scenario. My h used to do this w ours. They’d start play wrestling or pillow fighting, getting dc all riled up. Very annoying!

WeWereInParis · 26/04/2023 20:38

I don't understand why he doesn't do half the bedtimes anyway.

ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 26/04/2023 20:39

Well that was bit silly of him wasn't it. He can sort her tonight.

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