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To wonder if being told you’re diplomatic can be a bad thing?

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itscoronationday · 26/04/2023 17:09

I was in a job interview and they kept mentioning that my answers were ‘very diplomatic’. I was trying to be positive and open to the different opportunities they step part of the role, whilst still saying my preference when asked. I am flexible with broad interests, so I think that was reflected in my answer but now I’m worried that I could come across as fake or like I’m trying to people please rather than being authentic?

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Ponoka7 · 26/04/2023 17:12

It can be less than ideal for some job roles. So it depends on the job you were interviewed for.

Whochangedmynamec · 26/04/2023 17:12

They want to
see your real personality rather than you giving what you see to be neutral answers.

katmarie · 26/04/2023 17:13

It's hard to say without being in the conversation obviously, but I wonder if they were looking for you to take more of a firm position and you were sitting on the fence a bit. Or maybe they're looking for diplomacy and it's a compliment. Tough to know.

GaspingGekko · 26/04/2023 17:18

It could be that they didn't feel you were expressing enough of your opinions or personality.
Or it could be that you managed to express things that could be negative in a diplomatic way - like saying "he was an interesting character" when he's clearly a jerk.
Depending on the job and the context it could be a plus point or not.

LadyJ2023 · 26/04/2023 17:21

In job interviewing we tend to take the view that a to diplomatic person is possibly not one to make a stand if situations arise and unfortunately probably wouldn't get the job. Maybe try to change your answers a little to sound less like your on the fence tho I do get where your coming from also but usually its not how employers think.Good luck

PinkFootstool · 26/04/2023 17:35

To me it could suggest someone trying to please everyone and therefore not giving full honest answers.

In day to day stuff, I'd say it's someone who can't commit to a decision which can translate poorly in the workplace.

Conkersinautumn · 26/04/2023 18:01

They thought you were being very calculated. It depends if they were amused by it I guess. If there wasn't warmth there it probably isn't great

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