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Charity trustee role, comment I found patronising registered in the minutes AIBU to be irritated by this?

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timeaftertimeiwillfindyou · 26/04/2023 16:35

Ok, so I get that this is a tiny thing in the grand scheme of things but there have been a few occasions where I've felt patronised by this person so thought I'd check my perspective on this...

I recently took on a charity trustee role. I have lots of relevant experience and training in the sector, I'm qualified to Master's level and do regular CPD for work.

The trustee role is strategic, there is training we can take up that is offered to us for free. The strategic training looks great. The more sector specific training very basic training for me, so wouldn't be worth me doing as I'm already trained to a higher level in those subjects if that makes sense?

Anyway, other person and I attended a specific committee meeting (she has been on the board a long time but doesn't work in a related sector).

There was a discussion about training for new Trustees and I said I'd look at the courses.

This lady has then minuted and circulated to the rest of the board "timeafter will look at the courses and book on to relevant ones which will help her in her role as a trustee AND ASSIST HER IN HER PROFESSIONAL ROLE"

For some reason this has really irritated me. She knows next to nothing about my professional role or level of existing training and at no point did I say that this training will help me to do my job at work. Because it won't.

Next meeting is next week and we'll need to agree the minutes. Is it stupidly petty for me to feedback that this is not correct? Should I let it go? I just don't feel she should be minuting made up nonsense, least of all nonsense that talks about my ability to do my job outside of volunteering.

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Upsizer · 26/04/2023 16:36

Don’t worry - that’s why minutes are agreed. Just say “please could you remove the last part of the sentence - I don’t want to look like I’m blurring my roles.”

oviraptor21 · 26/04/2023 16:38

Also - "that doesn't accurately reflect the discussion" (assuming it doesnt) with perhaps a suggestion of some alternative wording - eg. substitute strategic for professional.

timeaftertimeiwillfindyou · 26/04/2023 17:13

Thank you those are really helpful responses. I genuinely didn't know if it was me being sensitive or not.

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