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Honourable or Self-Interested

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Carouselfish · 26/04/2023 11:08

Going on holiday soonish. Family member likely got covid, had for a few days, testing today, but has time to recover. If the rest of us are infected, we wouldn't have time. DP says that if he tested positive, he would still go.

We would be covered by insurance. The thing we would lose is holiday entitlement from work .

I was pretty shocked that he said it tbh. Argument was, people go in to work and to the supermarket with it now. I said, well that's not great but also entirely different from being in close quarters traveling, lying about it on forms etc.

The only word I could think of, but didn't say to him, was that it's a really dishonourable thing to do. As in not having, 'the quality of knowing and doing what is morally right.' I'm disappointed that he is that sort of person.

But, are most people more self-interested than honourable? Maybe they are. Depressing thought.

Would you expect your partner to be one or the other? I know how I feel about it so not worried if everyone agrees with me. But want to know what other people would expect their partners to say/be? Have I got a particularly bad one!?
So, my AIBU is this:

YANBU - I wouldn't expect my partner to say this.
YABU - I would expect my partner to be the same.

OP posts:
RoxanaRoxana · 26/04/2023 11:16

I’d go, assuming I wasn’t too ill. Unless you’d cancel for a bad cold it’s silly to treat covid any differently.

MrMarkham · 26/04/2023 11:25

What form will he be lying on? Easiest thing is just not to test, is it a requirement of the country you're going to?

MrMarkham · 26/04/2023 11:26

I wouldn't lie if I knew I had it and had to declare I didn't.

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