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Am I overreacting?

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MissChief001 · 26/04/2023 10:32

Ok I’ve had time to think this over but I still feel the same…I get horrible menstrual migraines. Very painful and lasts between 5-12 hours. My husband doesn’t understand that migraine is not a normal headache so no chance of me having a quiet, dark place to lie down in the master bedroom. I use another bedroom as the place I slip off to when having an attack. I throw up during the attacks and my appetite would be all over the place-over the years I’ve noticed that if I keep my blood sugar levels stable it helps with the pain and after effects.
For this reason I usually keep some snacks, crackers, some sweet biscuits, a small dark chocolate in my purse so that I can quickly access these when needed.
i was cleaning my purse yesterday and noticed empty packet where the crackers have been and the r chocolate wrapper..I actually questioned myself as I never leave rubbish inside my purse. The only other occupants in the house are my husband and daughter (9). I asked them, and my daughter immediately denied and my husband was having sort of a funny smile plastered across his face- when asked again they admitted that it was them.
Now- it’s not the contents, they can be easily replaced although it’s annoying as I have to remember to do this before my next attack- but
1.He is teaching our daughter that there is no need to respect my personal space.
2.She is 9 so not stupid, she knows it’s wrong hence the lying to cover it…I hate people who lie and worked really hard talking to her about telling the truth no matter what
3.I always respect their personal spaces- but the view is that I’m somewhat less important???

i feel annoyed about the thinking surrounding the event as supposed to the action. When I mentioned this to him he thinks it’s a joke- am I overreacting?

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TeaKitten · 26/04/2023 10:36

You said he smiled when he denied it, which shows he saw it as a joke rather than actually lying and blaming your DD or making you sound crazy. I’d see it as a very minor annoyance. I don’t think him eating a cracker out of your bag means he views you as less important. The not being sympathetic when you have a migraine is annoying though.

Ponoka7 · 26/04/2023 10:37

I think that it's a power trip for him. Why can't you lie down in your main bedroom? Is he generally controlling?

Ponoka7 · 26/04/2023 10:38

Re the smile, was it a smug, self satisfied smile?

autienotnaught · 26/04/2023 10:56

It sounds like he thinks it's all in your head (so to speak) I'd find this disrespectful and ask him not to take your snacks if it happens again I'd be majorly pissed

MissChief001 · 26/04/2023 11:05

@Ponoka7 Smug- he thinks it’s funny.
he is not controlling but can be selfish - he thinks migraine is not a big deal so no matter how many times I’ve explained about light sound sensitivity it’s pointless- bangs cupboard doors- wants the main light in to change as suppose to the bedside lamp etc. I find it much easier in the other room -

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MissChief001 · 26/04/2023 11:07

@autienotnaught i tried explaining this - he has this habit of minimising my feelings by saying the following sentences- ‘calm down’ or ‘don’t be silly’ -

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