Baby is now 6 months old, her dad hasn't seen her since New Year. Stopped paying child maintenance, refused to sign her passport form and hasn't even asked for any updates. He did say he wanted to be involved before contact completely broke down. Things are getting quite hard for me, she is a clingy baby and I can't get much done/have any time to myself and it's really getting me down, I can't even get a shower unless she is napping and by the time I'm out she's awake so can't even dry my hair, just silly things like this are really effecting me so I'd appreciate the help/him taking her out for a few hours.
I had an issue with him smoking cannabis, him and his mother smoking in the house, and the baby coming home to me smelling like smoke/quite snuffly.
He's not the easiest to reason with, he's very hot headed. But over the last few weeks I feel so guilty; I feel as though I am depriving my daughter of a relationship with her dad and his family but I don't want her to be subjected to those living conditions. He was told by my solicitor that if he produces a clean drugs test then he could have unsupervised contact, as I had suggested a contact centre due to the smoking and he didn't take us up on the offer. Mutual parties have told me that they are aware he's still smoking weed.
My family&friends have told me not to reach out and if he wanted to he would. He put me through so much during the pregnancy and those early few weeks. I just don't know what to do!!
Should I reach out?