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ExH much younger gf!

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namechange003 · 25/04/2023 11:19

I've changed name for this thread so it doesn't link with older posts about my divorce and quite frankly awful break up with exh so can get a clear perspective!

My exh and I split coming up on 5 years ago, I've been with my partner nearly 4 years, it's the only relationship I've had since and we waited about 2.5 years for him to meet our two DC's (primary age). When I first met my partner exh and I discussed how things would work re introducing dc to people. We agreed that it would only ever be a serious relationship that we saw a future in, perhaps not until at least a year of knowing that person, that we would also make each other aware of our intention to introduce them (not specifics)

Saying this, ex has introduced dc to 2 partners that he's been with for a short amount of time, first they obviously split and second is his current girlfriend he's been with for a matter of weeks (guessing approx because he had mentioned he wasn't seeing anyone a couple months ago), he didn't tell me and dc did. She is 22 and he is 40. His reasoning for again introducing them is because I went away for the weekend with our dc and my partner...! So he felt justified in it.

I know it's not my place to dictate what he does and I don't plan on it, I guess I'm just looking for some advice on how to deal with dc and supporting them in meeting someone new again that I feel like may not be around long, and someone who could possibly not understand the needs of two young children?

They are both extremely sensitive and are having a hard time dealing with things at the moment, they don't like going to their dads and the youngest gets quite upset.

We had a very emotionally abusive relationship during and after our split, which included stalking on his part and some other illegal activity which I can't go into! He laughs all this off and feels it is justified because I left him.

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