First post in ages, so name change.
Partner, together 8 years, last 3 not great. Actually, first 5 were pretty difficult with hindsight. Don’t live together - we’ve never wanted to and I wanted to keep my home separate for my DC.
He’s been recently diagnosed with cancer but refuses to give up smoking or smoking weed (something he doesn’t do near me). I’m absolutely appalled by this. He’s got a great chance of getting the cancer cleared as it’s been caught early and so far has been considered a ‘low grade’. I’ve lost people to cancer, including my mother so I just cannot believe he’s saying he’ll probably give up the tobacco but he’s determined to stick with the weed.
There’s no conclusive evidence weed is going to help his cancer as he’s not currently in pain, he doesn’t have siezures - he doesn’t use it for medical purposes.
I just feel he’s being an absolute childish fool, my respect for him has all but gone for this and I’m actually a bit embarrassed for him he is going to talk to the specialist, who deals with dying people every day in an attempt to bargain his way around it.
I can’t actually drop my feelings on this and feel I can’t support him through treatment if he’s not even going to even try to stop smoking both weed and tobacco - I lost a very dear friend last week unexpectedly, she didn’t have a chance of survival and I’m just so annoyed with him for being so blasé about his health - with the NHS as it is, I feel it’s a real p* take. I’ve reached my limit on patience as he’s quite an unpleasant man when he feels that way out which is what’s been turning me away from him for a good while now. But it’s cancer and I feel guilty if I don’t stick around to help. AIBU?