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Would you watch a true crime program if you personally knew the people?

68 replies

glovestrains · 24/04/2023 22:59

as in they were family or Friends

i probably wouldn't

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itsgettingweird · 25/04/2023 05:09

Heinous not genius obviously Blush

Dedodee · 25/04/2023 05:11

I am friends with someone whose family were killed in a high profile murder. I’ve seen a programme about it. I found it hard to watch.
What upsets me much more however is occasionally there will be a MN chat about the crime and mnetters will comment and voice opinions on my friend, what happened and how she must feel. Often the comments will be based on dubious information.
I find that incredibly upsetting and have to avoid the thread.

Aposterhasnoname · 25/04/2023 05:13

Yes, I have. A friends daughter was murdered by a high profile murderer and there’s been several programmes about him. I guess I’m trying to understand why he did it. My friend watches them all too.

Oversharingnamechanged · 25/04/2023 06:05

I have actually, a cousin who was murdered by a notorious serial killer.
I didn't know before watching that was how he died.
It was heavy, i learned of his fear before he was murdered. It was crushing.
I was a child when he died so never knew the actual circumstances of his death. I knew he'd been killed but not murdered if that makes sense? So to see his face on screen was awful when the reality hit me.
It wasn't a documentary, it was a true crime youtuber.
The thing that stayed with me was nobody reported him missing, it was when the serial killer was caught he told police where he'd left his body.
He looked like both a troubled but very kindhearted man who met a frankly horrific ending.

Tentoseveninthemorning · 25/04/2023 06:10

I’d like to think I’d be the bigger person and not but in reality I probably would.

moonspiral · 25/04/2023 06:22

Yeah I'd watch it

dogglebox · 25/04/2023 06:40

I watched a documentary about a local man who murdered his wife but I only know members of the family vaguely.

It's so clear he did it yet his family still have a fb page going insisting he's been wrongly convicted and rant about it constantly. There are two children who are teens now, I often wonder how they feel about their family's total denial/delusion about what happened to their mum. They live with the maternal grandparents and I think the paternal GPs see them, I wonder if they try and convince them it was all an accident.

jay55 · 25/04/2023 08:48

I went to school with someone who was murdered and body was found but unidentified for over a decade.
If they ever did a program on it I would watch.

BobbitWorm · 25/04/2023 08:54

I have a family member who was an informer on a big well known crime. They have made a film and a couple of documentary's out of it.

I love true crime and read/watch/listen to all sorts, but I can't bring myself to watch anything to do with this. It destroyed my family in so many ways. The informer as well as the repercussions on them and people close to me.

Bellaboo01 · 25/04/2023 08:54

glovestrains · 24/04/2023 22:59

as in they were family or Friends

i probably wouldn't

Yes i would.

JuneShitfield · 25/04/2023 08:58

ADogTwoCatsAndAFlan · 25/04/2023 00:52

Absolutely not. A dear friend of mine was raped and murdered. I know what happened to her, I don't need to see her awful death reenacted.

Same here. Flowers

Whichwhatnow · 25/04/2023 09:11

Depends on the crime I think? My dad's close friend was involved in a massive famous attempted heist and yeah I watched the documentary on that. Mostly because I was quite young when it happened (teen) so had hazy memories of what actually happened.

Don't think I could watch anything about the rape or murder of someone close.

ZeroFuchsGiven · 25/04/2023 09:12

My Sons best mate killed someone in a drunken fight/attack. It was shown on 24 hours in police custody, it was a hard watch but we did watch.

Now I absolutely love true crime docs and watch a lot, they have really gained popularity over the last few years and it is something which does play on my mind. Earlier this year someone close but estranged to me was sentenced to an extremely long sentence and will probably never be released, His crime was unspeakable, horror movie type stuff. I m absolutely terrified of one day having reporters/ tv crew tracking me down for one of these docs. I do believe it will be made into a documentary its honestly too messed up not to. I would never speak to them and probably deny all knowledge of ever knowing him. I have only told a handful of close people in rl about this.

IlIlI · 25/04/2023 09:15

I've watched a couple on a case I was involved in. Some of it was completely made up. I've since heard or read about others who say the same of cases themselves or family/friends were involved in.
I can completely see now why some families of murder victims say some of these documentaries can be exploitative at times, I couldn't see why when I was younger.

x2boys · 25/04/2023 09:15

It would be difficult if it was someone ,very close
There was a recent how they caught the killer documentary,about a women who.was brutally murdered in my town around 30 years ago.,it as very high profile locally ,they didn't catch the murderer untill about 12 years later when he was stopped for drink.driving ,my ex bil,knew him from school.

NutellaNut · 25/04/2023 09:32

Yes, I have. I was a childhood friend of someone who went on to murder someone in a very high profile case which has been the subject of several TV documentaries and was in the news at the time. I lost touch with them years ago though.

KrisAkabusi · 25/04/2023 10:13

I don't normally watch those programs, but I absolutely would if I knew the people involved.

TheShellBeach · 25/04/2023 10:13

Yes, and I have.

ClaraThePigeon · 25/04/2023 10:16

No. A family friend was raped and murdered. The little that I know of her last moments is horrific enough. Someone else I knew was raped and murdered too. And a friend was brutally murdered by her partner. I already know more than I ever cared to about their terrible ends.

VickyEadieofThigh · 25/04/2023 10:20

Back in the 80s, the mother of a boy I taught was murdered. Some years later, when he was in his 20s, a documentary about it was made. I watched it and was so sad about the devastating effect it had had on him.

TheVanguardSix · 25/04/2023 10:32

There was a podcast about the murder of my two friends. I just couldn't. I tried to listen and about 5 minutes in, I absolutely could not listen.

Male101 · 25/04/2023 10:34

There was a girl killed on V.E day a couple of years ago in my town, I didnt know her but I knew relative of her . I

Male101 · 25/04/2023 10:35

I Whatched it so I could see the facts instead of the rumours

limitedperiodonly · 25/04/2023 10:37

Definitely. I might not like it, but that's no reason for it not to be on.

Doggymummar · 25/04/2023 10:41

glovestrains · 24/04/2023 22:59

as in they were family or Friends

i probably wouldn't

No. My friend was murdered and there is a channel 5 documentary about it. I will never watch it. I saw a trailer and my blood went cold. If it were a really daring fraud I might watch it, where no one was hurt.