Dd & gf lighthearted

[waterwitch]

dd has a lovely gf, who, let’s be hones, sucks up to me. I make it worth her while - she gets lifts, invited out if we go for dinner, and I take them shopping/for coffee and cake. I quite enjoy spoiling them!
dd says gf is the only one who can control her. Turns out, if I ask dd to do
something in front of gf it gets done, immediately (unteenage behaviour ime!)

AIBU - I should warn dd about controlling relationships (lighthearted, it’s not!)

AINBU - I should take full advantage to get dd’s bedroom tidied, her revision planned and get her household chores done 😁

i wouldn't do it btw i know it's lighthearted but it might create a you and gf against dc situation even if its funny

It's lovely that you have such a close relationship with both of them but be aware when families get tangled up in relationships it then makes it very difficult to break up when the relationship runs its course and is no longer suited to them from either side.

You should teach DD about controlling relationships either way and what to look out for. If nothing else it'll make it easier for her to come to you if she needs to in the future with this partner or a different one, instead of thinking Mum won't believe me because they love X too.