DH refusing to put things away

[Huffingood]

I am fuming. A week ago I paid our cleaner to come in an extra day and helped her do a big clean and organise of our garage - which was in a total state. It’s now very tidy with everything in see-through labelled boxes. I paid for this myself, not out of joint funds.

DH has just been doing some jobs around the house and got some of the tools etc out of the boxes, then has just dumped them anywhere back in the garage. I asked him to put them where he found them back in the boxes and he started getting arsey, refusing to tidy it up saying it’s his stuff and he never wanted it organising. I pointed out I live here too and am not prepared to live in a pigsty and walked away.

AIBU to be really pissed off at this selfish & childish attitude?

Think very, very carefully about your future. What you see is what you get.

Did you need the garage to be tidy because you also use the space?

DH has his shed. I do not touch anything in the shed because I have no need to be in there and he keeps it in whatever state it's in.

This is pretty much why I'm not married. I'd had enough of being someone's cleaner, chief cook and bottle washer and working full time.
More and more women are saying no to this.
If you want to stay married I suggest letting him leave the garage as a pig sty and just keep the door shut.
I very much doubt its just the garage though.

You each need your own space, DH has his garage + the loft which I don't get involved in. I have a dressing room come study and he doesn't even go in unless he has to.

One warning, then bin his crap if he won't put it away

@TimeForTeaAndG it’s shared yes. When I calm down I’m going to tell him to sort out his own man shed. Which he can keep in whatever shit tip he likes. In the meantime, I expect respect of shared spaces

Why are a few left out tools such a problem? I’d get arsey too

This.

Couldn't live with a dim childish arsehole.

The cleaner should have been paid from joint funds.

Thats some waster you are with.

If he wasn't on board with organising the space why did you go ahead and pay for it to be done?

But it sounds like you wanted it all organising and he didn’t. Why would he be on board with that?

I’s be furious if someone tried to ‘organise’ me to their standard.

Definitely the hill to die on.
Let him get away with this and who knows where it will end.
I would normally say LTB but you’ve sorted the garage out so you should KTBO.

If he uses the tools the organisation or otherwise of the tools is up to him.

That sounds like a plan OP, I wish we had the space for that!

I see both sides tbh. He’s not behaving nicely. But I’d be upset if someone organised my things without involving me in deciding how.

But it is a shared space. They are also her things.

Did you discuss things beforehand? I probably wouldn't want someone to come and move all my stuff around, and I'd probably also be a bit arsey if they expected me to be grateful for a service I didn't want or ask for. But then, I'm quite a messy person (but I know where everything is within my chaos)

Because if you never put anything any it gets into a huge mess.