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to tell you teenagers are nice?

7 replies

Nimbostratus100 · 23/04/2023 11:48

honestly, the vast majority are completely reasonable human beings.

most want to demonstrate kindness and empathy, and have high moral standards, and think deeply, and have all sorts of hopes and dreams for the future. They are perfectly capable of self control and responsibility. They need love and care and boundaries and discipline, and understanding and support.

even the worst pack behaviour seen in school, the kids are completely normal when separated out and spoken to alone.

There is a bit of an echo chamber that gets set up on MN threads when someone describes unacceptable teen behaviour, and loads of posters all start saying thats normal, thats a phase, thats hormones, etc

It is so unnecessary. Teens can be harder than younger ages, but they need more parenting at this stage, not less, and the low expectations of teens that I regularly see on here are just parents abdicating responsibility to parent their child, and provide for their needs.

( some children are very hard to parent and discipline, but this isn't something that is related to being a teen)

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KrisAkabusi · 23/04/2023 11:50

Some teenagers are nice, some are little shits. Same as any other age group.

Convovulus · 23/04/2023 11:51

I agree. I know loads of nice teenagers. Also, lots of girls aren't bitches. Despite what people on mumsnet claim. I guess if you have a dd who is bitchy you might prefer to pretend they're all like it/it's normal. It's not. Lots of girls aren't bitchy.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 23/04/2023 11:52

I agree. I think most teenagers are lovely. Not all, obviously, but most.
Young people are the only thing that gives me hope for this world!

Nimbostratus100 · 23/04/2023 11:53

KrisAkabusi · 23/04/2023 11:50

Some teenagers are nice, some are little shits. Same as any other age group.

not realy, most people are nice, and almost all children are

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Restforabit · 23/04/2023 11:56

I know lots of nice teens, but in fairness a lot of teens are very different at school to at home. If someone is struggling with a teen, that is normal. it is also normal for said teen to be delightful to everyone except their own parents!

Gothambutnotahamster · 23/04/2023 12:25

I agree with you Op & I'm very grateful my teenagers are decent boys!

mbosnz · 23/04/2023 12:28

We have some right silly buggers around here. One of the 'worst' - well, I saw him leap off his bike to go over and pick up and comfort a little girl who'd had a big spill, make sure she and her Mum were alright, before he mounted up and went on his way.

Very much a big tough guy, the leader of the pack. I swear, my heart melted.

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