To cut my family off ie take from Facebook?

Bedhead22 · 2023-04-23T09:40:05+00:00

Ever since I was a kid I have felt rejected by the wider family ie aunts and uncles because they don’t like my mum really. i get invited to some family stuff but other stuff I don’t abs it hurts me and my child sometimes when I reach out To arrange to see them or visit I am completely ignored and not answered when I do meet up I feel rejected aibu to unfriend them all on fb and move on? or is this more normal then I think and just leave them on there but perhaps don’t message them or respond when they message me? It really affects my confidence

Lostinalibrary · 23/04/2023 10:41

Meh. I don’t really social media anymore. However, many of my family are like this. Toxic childhood to adulthood. I just cut them off and moved on. Best thing I ever did.

Beetrootlover82 · 23/04/2023 10:42

so un friending them on FB will be the equivalent of “cutting them off”?

if not, a very odd thing to focus on

I wouldn’t even notice if someone I friended me on bloody Facebook! 😂

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Bedhead22 · 23/04/2023 10:42

Lostinalibrary · 23/04/2023 10:41

Meh. I don’t really social media anymore. However, many of my family are like this. Toxic childhood to adulthood. I just cut them off and moved on. Best thing I ever did.

I think I need to! I’m quite lonely so I tend to hang on to toxic relationships more than I should

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Bedhead22 · 23/04/2023 10:43

Beetrootlover82 · 23/04/2023 10:42

so un friending them on FB will be the equivalent of “cutting them off”?

if not, a very odd thing to focus on

I wouldn’t even notice if someone I friended me on bloody Facebook! 😂

Lol thanks for the laughing face at my trauma 👍🏿

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Beetrootlover82 · 23/04/2023 10:44

You sound like someone that you would relish the drama of un friending on FB of you are a SM obsessed family… so go for it!

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 23/04/2023 10:45

Do you want to unfriend or block? If you unfriend them then they can add you again, or you might appear in people you may know. If you block you'll essentially be invisible to them on fb.

Lostinalibrary · 23/04/2023 10:47

Bedhead22 · 23/04/2023 10:42

I think I need to! I’m quite lonely so I tend to hang on to toxic relationships more than I should

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People who haven’t been there are missing the point. It’s not just a tantrum unfriending. For me, it was the final snip. Why are you even on my socials if I don’t see you or we don’t communicate. I just quietly removed mine and it was no drama involved - we don’t speak anyway.

SistersNotCisters · 23/04/2023 10:48

Do it. If they treat you like shit then why try to have a familial relationship with them? I've recently cut off DSis and DM because I've been trying for years to be close to them but every phone call feels like I'm annoying them. My own mother who doesn't bother her arse to ever see nor speak to her grandkids (her impeccably behaved grandkids I might add so it's not like I have "high spirited little darlings") but will repost worlds best grandma style memes on Facebook. I see one again and I'm going to call her out and ask if she has grandkids I don't know about or is it her pet's offspring she's thinking of.

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Bedhead22 · 23/04/2023 10:48

No drama just seeing their pictures of family parties cuts deeply. Because I’m desperate for a supportive family and would love to see a family I am close with all the time like that
so if they aren’t on fb I can’t see it

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Lostinalibrary · 23/04/2023 10:50

Bedhead22 · 23/04/2023 10:48

No drama just seeing their pictures of family parties cuts deeply. Because I’m desperate for a supportive family and would love to see a family I am close with all the time like that
so if they aren’t on fb I can’t see it

Yeah delete. I got sick of toxic people enabling other toxic people. Didn’t need to see it.

Valour · 23/04/2023 10:50

How difficult OP. FB is not the be all and end all, but it can feel more significant and have more of an impact than it should if you're constantly seeing lives you've been excluded from.

I don't like drama so when similar happened to me, I hid her posts and changed my settings so she couldn't see mine. I guess you have to decide whether you'd prefer to keep being invited to the few occasions you do get invited to, or not to see them ever again? Because this action may well do that.

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Bedhead22 · 23/04/2023 10:52

Valour · 23/04/2023 10:50

How difficult OP. FB is not the be all and end all, but it can feel more significant and have more of an impact than it should if you're constantly seeing lives you've been excluded from.

I don't like drama so when similar happened to me, I hid her posts and changed my settings so she couldn't see mine. I guess you have to decide whether you'd prefer to keep being invited to the few occasions you do get invited to, or not to see them ever again? Because this action may well do that.

I don’t think I do as I’m left out. The last one it was almost inferred I’d been invited by accident!
it just serves as a reminder I’m not part of their close family and it hurts

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Bedhead22 · 23/04/2023 10:52

Valour · 23/04/2023 10:50

How difficult OP. FB is not the be all and end all, but it can feel more significant and have more of an impact than it should if you're constantly seeing lives you've been excluded from.

I don't like drama so when similar happened to me, I hid her posts and changed my settings so she couldn't see mine. I guess you have to decide whether you'd prefer to keep being invited to the few occasions you do get invited to, or not to see them ever again? Because this action may well do that.

Maybe I’ll try this first I did a while ago but I kept checking their pages

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funinthesun19 · 23/04/2023 11:07

OP I have unfollowed a few people on FB so I don’t have to see their posts. It has really helped. They haven’t even done anything wrong against me, it’s just that I need a break from some people’s lives and to focus on my own for a while.