Favour Acceptance Reluctance

[Truestorypeeps]

Do you suffer with Favour Acceptance Reluctance (FAR)?

Are there people you won't accept a favour from as you have a hunch, or know from experience that they'll ask for a million things in return or perhaps ask for things you wouldn't dream of asking them (or maybe even anyone else?)

I don’t believe I ‘suffer’ from FAR, not any more, not after finally realising I had ‘Soft Touch’ stamped on my forehead.
Give em an inch and they’ll take a yard
In the past I have had my good nature exploited so many times, with promised
rciprocation melting away that I put a determined stop to it.
People can be hard faced, begging favours.

O yes, and NEVER lend tools/lawnmower/husband/partner to tidy up a straggly rose whatever, he will be there all afternoon and you will find that it was a trial run.

The favour they offer is keeping an eye on your children whilst you shop (would never happen) making you a cake as they can see you are busy (no thanks Ive seen your fngernails)
Beware the elderly neighbour (see above)
Why are we so polite that we cannot say no, becoming creative with excuses/reasons why not as usually their favour is minimal to what they are plannng to request from you (airport pick up of complete stranger for eg)

There is one person I would never accept a favour from The price would be far too high

Yes I often won’t accept favours I can’t repay etc but I don’t think it’s a sort syndrome you can “suffer” from, it’s just being sensible.

I refused petrol money from a neighbour once I realised she had used it to justify employing me as a shitty paid chauffeur.
She still constantly asks - actually the pleases have stopped so it's more like, 'tells' me I need to drive her here or there but I have a list of pre planned possible excuses because she's the type who could be really shitty to live next door to if I did the simple Mumsnet advised "No" (because no is a complete sentence) reply.