When your mum or dad died, did you ever feel really irritated with other family members?

[tensionsrunninghigh]

I'm just wondering if this is in the realms of normal. We've had a loss in recent months, and obviously it's really hard. But there is another close family member who sometimes I just get so annoyed at - over things that would have annoyed me before anyway, but it's more intense now, I just feel quite resentful and disappointed and depending, sometimes a flash of anger when they say or do something completely thoughtless? It's not constant, it's maybe every month or so.

Other times we get on well and it is comforting to have that family relationship.

As I said, it's not all completely new, there has been tension there before, but now I just feel like I can't be arsed repairing the relationship?

Not sure if I'm making much sense, but it feels like all emotions are amplified, and some of the relationships in our family feel like they're just not good.

I just thought we would all be pulling closer together as a family in our grief but we're not really! Are we freaks?

I think this can happen on grief. I lost my brother at Xmas time and literally all family members got on my nerves, i think it's all the emotions and the general upset of it all

It's not unusual to have almost referred anger. If someone has irritated you it's easy to hang your emotion on their peg.
I'd guess your 'wired and tired' that cruel combination of having a busy head yet being exhausted....oh and you've got to play the bereaved loving daughter and be pleasant.
Then there's the 'grief theif', that distant relative or friend who muscles in at the end.
All perfectly normal. You'll probably catch yourself laughing at something too then feel guilty for that too. You seem to have good self awareness so know you're easily triggered. Don't be too hard on yourself.

No you are not a freak. This happened to us.

Our parent passed, quiet suddenly/ traumatically very young. We (the dc), were also quite young. And the whole thing was just handled so poorly by the adults.

Now everything they do, just irritates me. It's like they can't do anything right. It's just amplified 100x more. Idk why. I've just gone low contact for my own sanity.