To have not made a will...

[cadburyegg]

... because I honestly don't know who would be able to look after my dc if I died.

I'm a single parent so I can't imagine that me and ex would die together or before the kids are adults BUT I know I need to sort something.

Ex is an only child.
I have 2 half siblings who are much older than me and we are LC. One of them doesn't live in the UK. Neither in good health.
My dc and I are very close to my mum but she is 79 this year so (assuming she lives that long) would be 92 the year my youngest hits 18.
Ex's parents are younger but not in good health and I don't think would cope.
I'm very close to my aunt and uncle but they are in their late 70s.
I have local cousins in good health but I rarely see them.
I have some close friends nearby but they all have their own young dc and i feel it would be too much to ask.

My kids are 8 and 5.

I feel sad that most people I know have an "obvious" choice but I dont.
I need to pick though because presumably if I don't they would go into foster care? 😕

Stating who you would like to take care of your children if they were orphan in your will isn't legally binding - it's just an expression of wishes. Social services can still intervene if you named someone - if they were inappropriate or unsafe.

You don't have to include it in your will at all - it is unlikely you and ex will die simultaneously.

You should still write a will though for the more likely scenario that your children were living with your ex in the event of your death.

It's just important to write your will to deal with your money, more than who would look after your children. Who do you want to control it, when would your want your children to have access, etc.

I haven't done a will either. I'm also not married. I know I should. As for custody of the children if we both die. He has a sister who just won't want them, I don't agree with my sisters parenting style so taking into ages of parents and aunts it will have to be a cousin I think. It's difficult isn't it.