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Flute56 · 22/04/2023 20:19

I live in a housing association flat. It is in a house conversion and I have the upper flat. There is only one other flat on my floor opposite me. That flat was sold off snd is now being privately rented by an agency.

The bloke who rents the flat has only been living there about 6 months. He keeps himself to himself as we all do. He is not noisy but every time he is in the flat he is doing something and I feel a tremor in my flat. The flat does not shake but the couch I relax on vibrates and that is quite annoying and it does not stop until he goes to sleep. I have no idea what is causing this because there is no noise coming from his flat.

People can be unpredictable and as I dont know him I do not want to mention it in case he gets nasty. He is divorced so that is another reason to keep clear because he could be violent or verbally nasty. My housing manager did ask me if there was any anti social behaviour to report and he ws just making sure I was ok living here, I said no because I would not calll this anti social behaviour because my neighbour is not having wild parties or bringing women back or playing loud music. He just makes my flat tremmor and whilst I m typing this message it is happening now and that is how I can tell he is in the flat because when he is asleep or out, it never happens. It never ever happened with the previous tenant.

If I find out who he is renting from and put in a complaint, he will know it is me so I would rather not do that.

I am at a loss. Sometimes the vibration is worse. Its as if he is using a washing machine and the spinning is making the vibration but the previous tenant used the wshing maching and there was no vibration.

Any advice? The housing association cannot do anything because the flat is not theirs anymore and it is the responsibility of the agency or whoever actually owns the flat

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WhyCantYourPartnerDoIt · 22/04/2023 20:22

“He is divorced so that is another reason to keep clear because he could be violent or verbally nasty. “

unreasonable for this ignorant comment alone.

don’t talk to him if you don’t want to but the idea that divorced guys are more like to be violent or nasty is bullshit.

newcastleapple · 22/04/2023 20:24

I agree...what a daft thing to say!
Could it be like a fish tank or something on an uneven floor?

Starhead69 · 22/04/2023 20:26

It’s giving Dahmer vibes

WhyCantYourPartnerDoIt · 22/04/2023 20:30

Starhead69 · 22/04/2023 20:26

It’s giving Dahmer vibes

He was never married so it’s not that.

OllytheCollie · 22/04/2023 20:30

Exercise machine? If he's got a peloton bike that could definitely go through your floorboards but not make any noise for him so he won't know. Ask him - it might be as simple as turning it round or putting it on an extra mat and it will stop bothering you.

CaroleSinger · 22/04/2023 20:31

It might just be a washing machine. Just because the last tenant didn't have a washing machine that vibrated means nothing. Perhaps his is on the way out and he can't afford to replace it because he's divorced and might be violent or verbally abusive. Seriously you're really over thinking this. You're going to look an absolute prune if it turns out just to be his washing machine.

CaroleSinger · 22/04/2023 20:32

Starhead69 · 22/04/2023 20:26

It’s giving Dahmer vibes

That's even more ignorant than the op to be fair.

mainsfed · 22/04/2023 20:37

Get the housing manager to have a word. Ask them not to tell him you complained. He won’t know if it’s you or people below him complaining.

He may be mortified.

Starhead69 · 22/04/2023 20:57

CaroleSinger · 22/04/2023 20:31

It might just be a washing machine. Just because the last tenant didn't have a washing machine that vibrated means nothing. Perhaps his is on the way out and he can't afford to replace it because he's divorced and might be violent or verbally abusive. Seriously you're really over thinking this. You're going to look an absolute prune if it turns out just to be his washing machine.

@CaroleSinger I’m not sure you understand what the words ‘vibes’ or ‘ignorant’ mean.

Strange unexplained sounds coming from a quiet guys flat would make me wary, even if it’s just a treadmill

Oysterbabe · 22/04/2023 21:00

My first thought was pelaton too.

ml3jp · 22/04/2023 21:04

Another vote for peloton!

Original poster
Flute56 · 22/04/2023 21:06

CaroleSinger · 22/04/2023 20:31

It might just be a washing machine. Just because the last tenant didn't have a washing machine that vibrated means nothing. Perhaps his is on the way out and he can't afford to replace it because he's divorced and might be violent or verbally abusive. Seriously you're really over thinking this. You're going to look an absolute prune if it turns out just to be his washing machine.

The owners of the flat provided the cooker and fridge and washing maching and thats all.

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BluebellsareBlue · 22/04/2023 21:10

Abusive or violent because he's divorced? So if he was a bachelor or widower he's less likely to be abusive and violent? Ok gotcha

ActDottie · 22/04/2023 21:26

WhyCantYourPartnerDoIt · 22/04/2023 20:22

“He is divorced so that is another reason to keep clear because he could be violent or verbally nasty. “

unreasonable for this ignorant comment alone.

don’t talk to him if you don’t want to but the idea that divorced guys are more like to be violent or nasty is bullshit.

This was my first thought too!

BungleandGeorge · 22/04/2023 21:36

How many hours a day is this vibration going on for? Do you have carpets?

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Flute56 · 22/04/2023 21:58

BungleandGeorge · 22/04/2023 21:36

How many hours a day is this vibration going on for? Do you have carpets?

3 hours and yes i have carpets

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Thisismeyeah · 22/04/2023 22:09

I'd just ask and say you have noticed a weird vibration when he comes home and wondered if it was something he was turning on, air purifier, air con etc. Just be nice about it. It could be something he has in the corner of a room making the vibrations bounce back and so a slight adjustment may resolve it. You dont have to be difficult about it.

LaurieFairyCake · 22/04/2023 22:18

It's a gaming chair

You could (very nicely) ask if he would mind putting it on a rug

But very VERY nicely

Littlebluebellwoods · 22/04/2023 22:26

Some of your comments are far from ok. He’s divorced so could he nasty? Wtf? He is not doing anything anti social like bringing women back ? Double wtf. Being divorced isn’t the sign of a bad person and he’s allowed to date.

good lord. You speak like a nun in Ireland from the 50s.

underneaththeash · 22/04/2023 22:38

You’re being unreasonable ignore it.

NeatCompactSleeper · 22/04/2023 22:40

He is divorced so that is another reason to keep clear because he could be violent or verbally nasty.

This is just too weird.

Do you have any idea how many divorced Mumsnetters you've just insulted? Confused

JorisBonson · 23/04/2023 10:37

OP had a habit of making lists with strange / offensive comments then getting the hump when people point that out. Don't waste your time.

IrregularChoiceFan · 23/04/2023 10:42

It's weird that Dhamer was so violent considering he wasn't divorced.

katmarie · 23/04/2023 10:52

Another vote for gaming chair.

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