Work place goings ons

[Yoyo2021]

Am I being un reasonable?

A member of staff has a nick name for everyone in our work row except me.

They offer everybody a coffee or to get something from the shop.

Im never asked! - yes I’ve asked them!

They also get hugs and special goodbyes when they go. I always make an effort to say bye to this person.

Today I did not and the person just walked out.

Earlier, when she said it I said ooh could you pick me up a cuppa I don’t like to ask here’s the money and she rolled her eyes.

No one needs to like me or offer me things I don’t to people I don’t like but I couldn’t exclude just one person who’s sat there.

I don’t know what I’ve done or if it’s because I’m not part of a click but it makes me feel so un comfortable!

Am I being un reasonable about this? Any tips?

Awful op so rude. I had it temping in one office the coffees the in jokes. I ate lunch alone. Im not sure how u approach it. It is rude though.

She's either jealous of you or feels threatened by you in some way

She needs to grow up!

Personally I'd be grateful that I wasn't involved in their clique. While it's good to rub along with colleagues, I'm there to do a job. Just keep your head down and get on with your work. It will all cycle sooner or later.

She has been reported due to how she talked to people at a few meetings.

Im not the people who did. The funny thing is one of them who did is who she buys coffees etc for and does the hugs too.

You work together end of, like the PP said, keep your head down and get on with your work. Coffees and going to the shop, just sort yourself out.

Perhaps she wrongly believes it was you who reported her?

That's what the grievance process is for.

You can't put a grievance in because someone does hug you 😂

Been there OP. And trust me, it’s a battle not worth fighting. Best thing to do is just ignore them, and treat them how they treat you!

Someone once told me “what someone thinks or feels about you, isn’t really your business”.

I live by they now! 😃