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To think dh would come with me?

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whoops · 15/02/2008 20:18

To take the kids to the dentist without me having to ask him to come?
We have been talking about spending a lot more time together this weekend as I don't have a hockey match and so won't be out all day tomorrow.
I told him the kids had the dentist in the morning and that we could go to a couple of other places after assuming he was going to come to. He then claims that he didn't know he was coming as I hadn't asked him to.
Am I wrong to have just assumed?

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Cappuccino · 15/02/2008 20:21

he should take them on his own

and you can do errands to make the most of the weekend

however if you normally do dentists by yourself he isn't telepathic, so YAB a little bit U

to me 'spending a lot more time together' does not mean all going to the dentist; tbh dh and I would probably split it so one did dentist and another did shopping/ ironing/ errands

it's not my idea of spending time together

SlartyBartFast · 15/02/2008 20:22

mine wouldnt dream of coming,let alone taking them!

Janni · 15/02/2008 20:26

Mine has never been with me to dental or medical appointments, nor would I expect him to. If I needed it I would ask him to take them himself - we would never both go. (BTW we have been together 20 years, married 11, 3 kids, get on pretty well most of the time)

mumeeee · 15/02/2008 20:30

I always take the children to the dentist myself and don't expect my DH to come with me.

Divastrop · 15/02/2008 20:31

my dh never goes anywhere with the kids and i.

i think YABU a little,as i dont see why he should assume you would both be going,unless you usually both take them?

Califrau · 15/02/2008 20:39

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whoops · 15/02/2008 20:42

I would normally take them on my own if it was during the week but being the appointment is on a Saturday morning and there are a few other things we wanted to do I thought it would save me driving back and forth from home and different places if he was with me.
Also ds is normally a handful while we are out and it would help keep him under control if dh was there too

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Heated · 15/02/2008 20:46

Depends on their age. At present no way I could manage my 2 under 4 at the dentist, but then I booked dh in as well! When older I assume it'll only take one of us - whichever one of us is also getting the check up.

If I asked/told him, dh would go.

BroccoliSpears · 15/02/2008 20:47

I think it's alwasy a bit unreasonable to assume someone can read your mind.

Divastrop · 15/02/2008 20:49

i think its just a simple communication issue.is he going to go with you now?

i think those with dhs who actually go places with them are very lucky

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whoops · 15/02/2008 20:54

OK I accept I may have been a bit unreasonable but we had been talking as though we were going together to do things after the appointments

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bozza · 15/02/2008 21:18

Sounds like a misunderstanding. Don't feel bad - we all have them.

From a personal pov I am not sure that DH knows where our dentist is. We have a local one - DH goes to one in the centre of the nearest large town because he didn't bother registering until he got an abcess caused by a wisdom tooth and found himself in agony out of hours. I have taken both children on my own to the dentist since they first got teeth as babies.

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whoops · 15/02/2008 21:20

I wouldn't or Couldn't expect dh to take them on his own (he doesn't drive for a start!) but he did come the last time too.
I know now to ask him if I need him to go anywhere with me

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