my DC’s dad is very tricky. If he is called out on anything at all he will retreat and has no issues whatsoever with ignoring you. Dc is now three and I really needed a response regarding nursery fees (he has money so it wasn’t a case of being worried about knowing what to say). He didn’t reply for three weeks and when he did he said he would give it some thought. I was stressed as his contribution to the cost will dictate to some extent what I do with work and the hours I can try and negotiate. This is just one example. Trying to organise days he will see dc is another over the top nightmare, he will not reply and often let the date pass that has been suggested between us, with no confirmation. He makes sure his messages are pleasant and polite but obviously his entire behaviour is an inconvenience to me and feels incredibly rude. The occasion I asked if he could please respond a little more swiftly, he totally retreated for weeks and said he didn’t want to be dictated to like that.
I feel so angry with him and so disrespected even after all this time. It’s not as easy as just forgetting about it or ‘moving on’, I feel I am unable to call him out on things as he just disappears entirely and that’s not fair on our dc but also I feel so trampled on by how he is.
Any advice from anyone in a similar situation or who has managed to cope with this would be really helpful!