After my first child was born, I went back to work after a year and I wanted to put them into childcare. My husband didn’t want to waste the money so insisted my MIL look after them as it was free and it made more sense to save the money. I reluctantly agreed as we don’t get on and she’s not the most mothering type and is very dazed at the best of times. So she did so for 2 years and was almost always late, whilst I went back to work until they were old enough for Government funded hours at 3yo. She made a massive fuss about not wanting my first born to go to nursery and how I was taking them away from her and that there is no benefit to children attending a educational facility until at least 5!
Fast forward being heavily pregnant with my second child, she puts my first child’s life in danger due to lack of care and never really apologised for it.
I’m nearing the end of my maternity leave with my second child and my husband wants his mum to look after baby number 2. I again reluctantly agreed as we really can’t afford it second time round, but only until government funding which thankfully has been reduced to 2 years olds from Sept 24.
My husband is angry and wants her to look after my second child until 3yo even though government funding is available from 2yo.
Am I being unreasonable to not want her to look after my children?