How do people work full time jobs and deal the struggles of personal life

[Workingmomof2]

I am genuinely at breaking point. My preteen is sending me into despair. Sometimes he’s being bullied, other times he’s being mean to others, he’s late for school, rude.

this morning I just about lost it. He woke up and refused breakfast. Then refused to get ready for school. Apparently because I was shouting at him. He refused to wake up and is late for school so often it does start with a gentle wake up now, and swiftly moves onto wake up!

this morning he just refused.

I had to call the school and the head teacher spoke to him and encouraged him. He asked me to walk him so he could calm down.

i was late for work by one hour. Crying. Feeling like a failure.

i am so close to crawling into bed and telling my boss I can’t do it anymore.

I am expected to work until 5 pm tonight.

i also have a younger child who witnesses her brother saying he will run away, jump off a bridge etc etc.

Anyone

Are you a single parent? Is his dad around to have a chat with him? Teens are hard work? How is he with you setting ground rules about behaviour at home? Ask for a meeting with the welfare officer at school? He should be able to access counselling to see if there's anything behind this behaviour. There are some really good books on managing teenage behaviour on Amazon that may be helpful.

Honestly, I don't manage! Which doesn't help you! Working full time with husband that works full time shifts. Both jobs high pressure. My eldest son is awaiting ADHD assessment, as am I. I've just had a workplace assessment and waiting for the results. Youngest son witnessing brothers challenging behaviours and starting to copy. None of us sleep.

My dog is currently very ill and it's just tipped me over the edge. I've spent the last two days shut in my office with the doors closed crying. So embarrassing and so unprofessional.

My house is a constant mess. I'm 5 stone overweight as rely on sugar and caffeine to get me through the day.

I dropped a new coffee cup this morning and broke it and lost it. You have my sympathy.

It sounds really tough.

I would ask the school for support and see if the gp/school can refer to cahms as it sounds like he needs mental health support.

It is really tough working full time when this sort of things are going on. Some employers are understanding and allow you to use unpaid family leave very flexibly. It does mean you have less money but it lets you keep your job and removes a stress.

Some gps are sympathetic and will sign you off with stress (if appropriate and you are too stressed) for a short time to just focus on one thing.

Could you lay it on the line for your son that you’re going to leave it to him from now on to get up and get to school? You’ve done your best.
It’s okay to say that you need to go to work - there will be negative consequences if he doesn’t go to school for him and possibly for you if you’re fined. You need an income.
It’s not a battle that you can cope with every day - if he ends up seeing no one his own age and with no qualifications it’s down to his own actions. Hopefully he will be referred for help with his mental health and could be moved to a pupil referral unit.