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carolfxdel · 19/04/2023 22:23

DH went away a couple days last week for a football watch with friends & some family. He was gone for about 2 and a half days. This week he's developed what I think is some sort of Urinary infection (GP believes so too, ordered for a urine test.)

However, his mum called and made what I think is a bit of an insensitive comment along the lines of "What did you do while you were away, did you hook up with someone?" I'm a little taken back by the comment, but haven't addressed it. It's a rather odd comment to make, suggesting that your son would cheat?

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matisses6fingers · 19/04/2023 22:25

That’s odd and inappropriate.

i hope your DH is ok. UTIs aren’t that common in men so glad the doc is taking it seriously

determinedtomakethiswork · 19/04/2023 22:34

Has he perhaps cheated before on someone else and she knows about it? I seem to be an odd thing to say otherwise.

Weallgottachangesometime · 19/04/2023 22:35

determinedtomakethiswork · 19/04/2023 22:34

Has he perhaps cheated before on someone else and she knows about it? I seem to be an odd thing to say otherwise.

This was my thought. Either than or she’s one of those people who just says random shit without any logic.

SunshineGeorgie · 19/04/2023 22:35

I'll be honest....it's where my mind jumped to!

WhiteFire · 19/04/2023 22:36

Why and how does she even know about it?

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carolfxdel · 19/04/2023 22:40

determinedtomakethiswork · 19/04/2023 22:34

Has he perhaps cheated before on someone else and she knows about it? I seem to be an odd thing to say otherwise.

not that i know of, we've spoken openly about our pasts before and he's said he never has cheated, which i believe, he's never given any indication of this, (with me that is!) so i believe he's telling the truth. there'd be no reason to lie

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carolfxdel · 19/04/2023 22:41

WhiteFire · 19/04/2023 22:36

Why and how does she even know about it?

we speak regularly, and she had called at the time we were on our way to do the urine test, so mentioned it. we're all quite close

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Zola1 · 19/04/2023 22:43

It sounds like maybe just a joke, if she's that way inclined. I might jokingly say to my partner in that situation, ey where have you been, but it would just be a joke as we both know he'd never.

ancientgran · 19/04/2023 22:43

Weallgottachangesometime · 19/04/2023 22:35

This was my thought. Either than or she’s one of those people who just says random shit without any logic.

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My late MIL could be very inappropriate, told my husband once, in front of me, that I was obviously having an affair with a man at work. Her proof? I referred to him by his first and last name, I referred to others as Mr. So I would say Mr Smith did this, but for him I'd say Mr Harrison Smith did that. She assumed Harrison was his first name but his name was double barrelled. Fortunately DH knew him and just laughed at her.

Her other outstanding moment was asking me, in front of teenage sons, if the fact that she had decided to have my husband circumcised as a baby had damaged our sex life. The boys were hysterical, I think they found it funny and revolting at the same time.

I was always a bit on edge with her as you just never knew what would come out of her mouth next, some was just stupid like asking if I was weaning baby on the same baby food she used. How the hell would I know what she used 40 years ago on another continent. Also I was a bad mother as my children weren't toilet trained at six weeks.

I feel better for getting that out.

Greensleevevssnotnose · 19/04/2023 22:47

He probably just didn't drink enough 🌊💦

PuffinsRocks · 19/04/2023 22:49

WTAF. Why the hell is your DH telling his mummy about his UTI? Ick. He needs to get some boundaries. And her comment is double ick.

Clusterfunk · 19/04/2023 22:54

Hmm. UTI in men is extremely uncommon and can be an indicator of underlying medical conditions. Some STIs present with UTI like symptoms. I think his Mum has suspicions.

If his dipstick and culture for uti come back negative, I’d get a sexual health screen OP just to be safe.

Emmamoo89 · 19/04/2023 23:04

PuffinsRocks · 19/04/2023 22:49

WTAF. Why the hell is your DH telling his mummy about his UTI? Ick. He needs to get some boundaries. And her comment is double ick.

It's just a uti Confused

Weallgottachangesometime · 19/04/2023 23:06

PuffinsRocks · 19/04/2023 22:49

WTAF. Why the hell is your DH telling his mummy about his UTI? Ick. He needs to get some boundaries. And her comment is double ick.

My husband would tel his mum if they happened to speak on the phone. I’ve spoken to my dad when he’s had issues.
Really not that odd.

It was the reply from the mum that WAS odd

gettingoldisshit · 19/04/2023 23:07

I think his mum knows more about his " past" than he's told you! Its a very strange comment for her to make out of the blue, there's definitely some history here.

nomoredriving · 19/04/2023 23:07

PuffinsRocks · 19/04/2023 22:49

WTAF. Why the hell is your DH telling his mummy about his UTI? Ick. He needs to get some boundaries. And her comment is double ick.

Her comment is ick, but if a woman mentioned a UTI to here mummy would the reaction be quite as extreme?

villamariavintrapp · 19/04/2023 23:13

Hmm, well I can see where his mum is coming from really. UTIs are quite unusual in men unless he's got some other medical issues underlying, whereas an STI presenting shortly after a lads' holiday..

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