Is she acting weird about invitation

girlfriend44 · 2023-04-19T13:25:52+00:00

Newish friend said i must go round to hers( she has something at her house to show me) thats why we cant meet in a cafe or anything. we arranged a date to go round, then had a message cancelling the daybefore. I rang and tried to arrange new date, a week later, she said im not free then. When I saw here i mentioned it and she said you can come round anytime. Why doesnt she issue another invation then. I cant just turn up. Would you ask again and say you need to ask me and make a date or just leave it. Never known this. Finding it odd. Seems its ok for me to go, (but is it) but she isnt offering a time or date??

Hellocatshome · 19/04/2023 14:28

It depends what the thing is she wants to show you? Does she really want to show you or have you asked to see it? If she really wanted to show you she would arrange it. I dont think she's that bothered by the sounds if it.

Tropicalsunshine · 19/04/2023 14:31

That's annoying! Is such a minefield making new friends. I'd message her and say... Hi friend, etc. etc. Then at the end put... let me know when you're free for me to come round.

Balls in her court then. If she's changed her mind she can ignore it.

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girlfriend44 · 19/04/2023 14:33

That's annoying! Is such a minefield making new friends

yes weird, also she says she never likes any facebook posts just reads everything, IVe not known anyone to actively say they dont like on facebook ever. Hmmm.

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SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 19/04/2023 14:41

girlfriend44 · 19/04/2023 14:33

That's annoying! Is such a minefield making new friends

yes weird, also she says she never likes any facebook posts just reads everything, IVe not known anyone to actively say they dont like on facebook ever. Hmmm.

Eh?

GoodChat · 19/04/2023 14:49

She might have a partner who's not comfortable with other people in their house but she doesn't feel like she can tell you that.

FatAgainItsLettuceTime · 19/04/2023 14:53

Just say something like "great, is Friday at 10am good for you?"

She's said come round anytime so just propose a time and go.

KrisAkabusi · 19/04/2023 14:56

Why doesnt she issue another invation then. I cant just turn up.

Why can't you? She's specifically said that you can.

Invisimamma · 19/04/2023 14:57

Leave it a week or so and the. Message something like 'hi, is it okay if I pop round on date/time?' if she makes up an excuse then she doesn't want you coming to her house, unless she is genuinely unavailable.

Kittykatchunjy · 19/04/2023 15:03

Loads of people don't 'like' anything on FB but just look, there's no law against it

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girlfriend44 · 19/04/2023 15:07

Kittykatchunjy · 19/04/2023 15:03

Loads of people don't 'like' anything on FB but just look, there's no law against it

really out of interest why? isnt that what FB is all about, liking and sharing etc? Ive never heard this before.

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Greensleevevssnotnose · 19/04/2023 15:10

I wouldn't judge a friendship on Facebook usage, that's mad. I don't use FB or insta what does that say about me? She's said go round anytime. Just pop round. I don't invite people they know we are generally at home just come round

TedMullins · 19/04/2023 15:12

you cancelled on her, she probably thinks you’re flaky now and is letting you propose a new time. So do that. “How’s Friday at 10? Great see you there” as PP said. And stop worrying about what she’s doing on Facebook, loads of people just look at social media and don’t like/post anything, it has no bearing on people’s feelings in real life

GoodChat · 19/04/2023 15:22

TedMullins · 19/04/2023 15:12

you cancelled on her, she probably thinks you’re flaky now and is letting you propose a new time. So do that. “How’s Friday at 10? Great see you there” as PP said. And stop worrying about what she’s doing on Facebook, loads of people just look at social media and don’t like/post anything, it has no bearing on people’s feelings in real life

OP didn't cancel

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girlfriend44 · 19/04/2023 15:23

GoodChat · 19/04/2023 15:22

OP didn't cancel

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thanks, she cancelled.

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girlfriend44 · 19/04/2023 15:42

Greensleevevssnotnose · 19/04/2023 15:10

I wouldn't judge a friendship on Facebook usage, that's mad. I don't use FB or insta what does that say about me? She's said go round anytime. Just pop round. I don't invite people they know we are generally at home just come round

you arent on social media at all so it different. I just find it strange that people who are, want to read things but never like or comment. Dont they like their posts to be liked etc. Anyone i guess thats a side issue. I cant just turn up dont know when she is at home. Not going to just waste a journey.

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misskatamari · 19/04/2023 15:58

invite thing, hard to see, but your issue with her Fb usage is weird. Plenty of people will have it to read but don’t like it comment on things 🤷🏻‍♀️

Cigarettesaftersex1 · 19/04/2023 15:59

I use FB and rarely like anything, couldn't give a shit if no-one likes my posts either.

Funkyslippers · 19/04/2023 16:02

I have a relative like this. He said to me around 5 years ago "you're always welcome to pop round" but he works full time and is out most weekends so I can't just pop round and he is useless at arranging a time when I can!

GoodChat · 19/04/2023 16:04

Funkyslippers · 19/04/2023 16:02

I have a relative like this. He said to me around 5 years ago "you're always welcome to pop round" but he works full time and is out most weekends so I can't just pop round and he is useless at arranging a time when I can!

I tell people they're welcome any time if I don't want to make steadfast plans for them to visit, because they are but I don't like the pressure of a planned visit

Heroicallyfound · 19/04/2023 18:04

If you want to see her arrange a time and date and place.

If she’s ambiguous ask her again to be clear.

if she carries on being ambiguous see other friends instead.

don’t overthink it!