Have you ever gone through with something you knew would end badly?

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I think it is called being willfully blind.

I have a few, my dad took our dog for a walk at the park without me. I really wanted alone time as I shared a room so I stayed. But I couldn't relax, instead I sat at the top of the stairs waiting for them to come home. My moms mobile rung and I thought 'this is it' and it was. The dig was run over, he didn't die but was put down shortly afterwards. I knew I should have gone, I promised I would walk him every day and the day I didn't go he got run over. I knew it from the moment they left the door that I should have gone.

it wasn't a woo moment, because I knew my dad would walk him to the nearest park with rubbish fencing but I still let him go.

I have a couple more but this one makes me feel so guilty. I knew it but I thought everything would be OK

3 days into a horrific labour where baby was intermittently in distress I said I wanted a c-section but was coerced into going for trial by forceps by various medical professionals. Ended up with a 4th degree tear and horrific PPH. I can clearly remember lying on the bed in theatre being stitched for hours and thinking I just KNEW trial by forceps would go wrong. Thank god DS was ok but I was terrified for months that I had somehow damaged him

I got talked into trying a vaginal birth at 30 weeks with breech twins, over an EMCS when my waters broke. I knew from the minute i found it it was twins i wanted an ELCS but the medical staff completely ignored me at every stage. But when I'm scared, confused, and in pain, a doctor in a white coat telling me a vaginal birth is best for my babies, I'm going to do what he says.

Something went wrong, baby 1 nearly died, EMCS under general anesthesia. We are incredibly lucky he made it through. I ended up with ptsd which took 5 years to diagnose and treat successfully.

Group of friends and I were backpacking in the late 90s and spent a few days in Dubai. A local man befriended us in a supermarket and offered to show us around. As there were 5 of us we weren't too worried and took him up on his kind offer (!). I think his tour was to a mall and the cinema to see the Wild Wild West with Will Smith

Then 3 of my friends flew home, leaving me and a friend. He again said he wanted to take us out for the day and we agreed. He took around to a few local sights including a camel farm, a souk and to visit some of the neighbouring states. All good so far.

We get to day 3 and he says he would like to take us out again. But this time he would like to take us to an apartment with his friend (!!!). God knows why but we agreed. They had hired an apartment. We ate lunch, went for a swim and then at some point the conversation changed to how 'they don't mind making love with hot western women'. We looked at each other and knew we just had to get out of there.

I can't remember whether we ordered the taxi or he relented and got us one but we were so relieved when it arrived.

The following day he left a message at our hotel (which we ignored) and he then even turned up at the airport. He gave my friend a giant Teddy bear that said I love you on a t-shirt. She binned it as soon as we checked in.

I still can't believe the position we put ourselves in. I hope my daughters have more sense.

I had a very similar experience. Permanently injured, irreparable damage to me. Twins also have problems, possibly caused by birth trauma. But as you pointed out, it’s all very well knowing something, but having the confidence to act on it, when you are at the mercy of the people in front of you, is asking the almost impossible. I begged for a caesarean but was treated like a silly little woman.

Did the consultant’s surname begin with an L and was he Irish working in the UK?