Son's friend vomited last night and was at school today

[jaysusmickeyandjoseph]

So my son's friend vomited last night and his Min sent him to school as normal. AIBU that I think that's really bad? I'm worried now that he's spread his germs to my son

I think loads of people do this. I'm pretty much the only one in my school friendship circle who observes 48 hours rule. Most don't even do 24.

My ds was sick the third time last month in the 12 months i have left the house 10 minutes before him. So the 3rd time i sent him.. so yes can be difficult to assess the reality

If he's infectious then that's crap but as someone who has never had a cast iron stomach, any old thing can make me puke, not just bugs.

Depends on the child. With two of mine I had permission from the school that if they were sick once then they could come in if they were better:
dd2: vomits with migraines. She's normally recovered within half a day.
Ds: vomits when his temperature comes up, which normally with him is an ear infection, which isn't infectious. He has had winters when if he'd had to miss the next 48 hours for vomiting due to an ear infection, then he'd have hardly been in from November through to March.

In both cases, if there was any doubt that it was due to these cases, then they stayed at home. If they vomited twice then I did keep them at home anyway.

I do think a lot of parents send kids in sick because they feel they have no choice because they can't miss work, or because they don't want to.

Having said that, DC1 had a diagnosed juvenile vomiting thing around the ages of 6 and 7. He would feel unwell for about 30 minutes, be sick and then go back to being fine like nothing had happened. I could tell the difference between that and, say a bug, or food poisoning, because there were literally no other symptoms and nothing else about him changed. We spoke to the GP and the school and the school was happy for us to send him in late in the morning if he'd been sick so we could wait and see if there were any other symptoms that might indicate he was properly unwell. They'd rather he came to school late than miss school when he was perfectly fine, and they trusted my judgement about it (probably because I DIDN'T send him to school when actually was unwell).

This happened in infants school many years ago. One mum sent her little darling in cos "he was only sick once" overnight. 😏😏 They ended up closing the school as everyone got norovirus. Happy days 🤨🤨

YANBU. It's just selfish if there's no clear other cause (like car sickness etc).

If it is unexplained sickness not caused by food intolerance, anxiety, medication or overactive gag reflext then of course you aren't being unreasonable. But how would you know? People presume they know things about my DD that they don't. They make assumptions and it causes a lot of problems around this sort of thing.

Oh, I don't, as it happens. They can fine away. I despise turning attendance levels into a race for 100%. However, I understand why people DO send their kids in because we operate in a contradictory and frankly bonkers society.

I sent my daughter in one day last year after she vomited the night before. She was sniffing the new hand wash, got a load up her nose and threw up. Clearly not contagious, just a daft accident.

Since I started my period at age approx. 10, I've not had a single month in my life without being sick at least once, as far as I can remember. 🤣

Sometimes the severe cramps make me vomit. Sometimes I vomit because I'm overstimulated. Sometimes I eat too fast. Sometimes it's a food allergy. Sometimes I bend down too soon after eating and it all just spills out.

Some people are just weak like me and not ill. If I took days off every time I vomited, I'd never have gone to school. 😬

Lots of things cause a one off vomit. DD1 ate two helpings of cherry pie and custard at the ILs last week, came home and bounced on the trampoline with her sister for half an hour and then threw up in the bath. Completely fine afterwards. I could have kept her off nursery the next day, but I was clear about the cause of the vomit so went to work. DD1 was fine, my class got their teacher for the day and nothing else has come of it.

Context is everything.

Happens all the time. The kids usually tell their teachers they were sick then principal rings parents who then either excuse or laugh it off grrr

My eldest can throw up at the drop of a hat. Over tired, over heated, headache, angry, ate food he didn’t like, the list goes on. School now don’t ring us unless it’s twice and he actually looks peaky. They don’t expect us to keep him off for 48 hrs as otherwise he’d have missed tonnes of school for no good reason.

See I can understand that the cost of living crisis is making people work even more and when they are ill it's going to spread around all the staff the grown up works with as well as the kids at school and others might not be able to fight it off the bug's these people are carrying. One kid sick should be made stay at home and parents should still get partly paid for being home I'll. Realised or not the parents may be carriers of the bug the child has. So stay home and keep other people's health in your mind as they may die with the bug that they are carrying around. Give thought to people who have bad or no immune system. Save lives and keep your germs to yourself and your family.

I'd send mine if they were just sick once and felt well by morning.

DS2 was often sick when he got over hot. Just the once and not ill in himself.

If it's a bug you're not sick once.

That's not true. We've had bugs in our house where it's obviously been a bug because one child has been sick lots, but the other has just been sick once.

And a few weeks ago DD2 was sick once, then a couple of days later DD1, then a couple of days later DH. All three of them were just sick once.