Celebs and 'fertility' battles...AIBU?

[TigerToo]

NC for this, 5 round plus multiple cycles of IVF have failed. Still childless. I now face the prospect of a hysterectomy at 40. So appreciate my emotional state might be clouding my judgement.
Browsing socials today to yet another celeb posting about their 'elective' egg freezing process, to give them more options and time in the future to decide if/when to have kids. They are in the early days of stims, talking about how much it's already 'takings it's toll'
AIBU to think this isn't supportive to women who've been through this journey. It's almost bragging, arrogant ..... I might not need in the future but I'm going to do it anyway so I can sell my tale of woe in the future and money is no object.
It's not a battle, it's a choice.
And yes .... I've unfollowed, and yes I'm being cruel, mean, jealous but surely any good PR person wouldn't recommend broadcasting this to the world.
Same said about those who sell stories to the papers about their 'struggle' of one round, one cycle, healthy pregnancy and birth. Hard yes, but not exactly years and years of IVF hell.
Rant over. Sorry - needed to get it out.

YANBU to be bitter or twisted or jealous OP

Trouble is no body can know how hard real infertility struggles are on the mind until and unless they've been there.

Avoiding the 'baby aisle' in the supermarkets and getting upset at all the nappy ads on afternoon TV ... Once you've been there your eyes are painfully wide open to how many normal things can hurt those who are struggling. Every day there'll be something which will hit you like a punch in the stomach.

However - and i say this so gently - normal is the way things should be. We can't tell people not to talk about their life and the way it feels to them.
again.

People are entitled to talk about their lives.
Whether that is about freezing eggs or anything else.
The fact that it triggers you is, unfortunately, a you problem.
I get that it is hard, specially after several rounds, but other people arent to blame for it.

Im sorry for your struggles.

I hear you. I think the issue is that unless people have gone through genuine infertility struggles (not just it taking them a year to conceive or even undertaking one round of successful ivf ) they have no concept of how hard it is and how it defines your whole life.

It took me a number of rounds of ivf, some losses, many years and finally moving to DE. I wish you luck OP.

Tana Ramsay also talks about her infertility. She has five dcs!!!!

Almost as bad as Liz Earle who attributes her super-fertility to her face cream.

Where's she putting it ?!?

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For some reason celebs and magazines seem to think that ordinary women want need even to hear and read about them having the same problems.

Except their not, or they may be in the same storm but not in the same ship. And most women who are into celebrity culture would prefer to keep the fantasy that they live problem free lives and if only they had their lives they wouldn't have such problems either.

As for freezing eggs most do not result in a viable pregnancy, they give a chance albeit a very slim and expensive one

I don't think it's bragging or arrogant... These women presumably don't have children so don't actually know if they have fertility issues. It's awful that some people on this thread have gone through terrible times, but as a woman in her early 30s who has never tried to conceive, it's helpful to me that these options are spoken about. Everyone has their own issues and I'm sorry that this triggers you, but I think you're overreacting. Also don't agree with people minimising other people's struggles because it wasn't 'as bad' as their own. Not conceiving within a year/requiring IVF is infertility by NHS definition, whether you like it or not.

if its Vicky pattison (from geordie shore) she has been pretty open about her period issues and checking her fertitily/ egg collection.

she is 35/36 so about the right age to be considering these options if she wants kids. yes she may well be paid/givem free treatment but i very much doubt she is doing it for a freebie - hardly a spa day to enjoy.

I know several women who waited to have children/weren't sure they wanted them/hadn't met the right man. When they struggled to get pregnant due to no eggs/poor egg quality/early menopause they were devastated. Maybe making women consider this as a possibility if they are delaying motherhood is a good thing, it might save some people from a lot of pain in the future.

If it is VP I've seen her posts on Insta too. She's the same age as me, appears to be in a stable relationship so I've been wondering why she isn't just TTC now, rather than freezing eggs/embryos?

Sorry different time zone and thank you all the responses. I completely appreciate that this is a me problem. I'm fearful also that it's being sold as a 'silver bullet' for younger women to delay conception. The chances of IVF working are so slim, it's a numbers game but it's no guarantee. This isn't a pre planned Instagram post that you can schedule for the right time.
I also agree that we should be more open to talking about fertility issues, MMC - it shouldn't be taboo. But if you are in a place of influence, then be careful what you promote, when and to what audience.
Off to unfollow .....

His only knows why I'm still looking her stories ..... but she just posted a massive rant on how she can't cope with all the negativity she is receiving. I feel a bit guilty now.