Often there are threads about useless partners who do very little around the house. Usually the response is well don't cook their meals or wash their clothes etc.
AIBU to think thats not helpful. If I have to cook for myself and the kids or wash my clothes and the kids clothes then
A I would still be doing the lions share and
B if I'm doing that I might as well cook for everyone.
What I want is for someone, anyone will do (apart from the 2 year old) to just decide to cook for everyone or do the washing or clean the bathroom.
I don't want to have to stop doing things for DH, I want him to realise I'm burned out.
He is home before me 4 days a week with no caring responsibility but when I get home it just seems to be expected that I will cook and get everything ready for the next day.
We've talked about it, had rows about it but nothing changes. He does do more with our son but I just feel like an unpaid maid..
Anyway DH is my problem but surely I'm not unreasonable to think that stopping doing things for your partner doesn't really reduce your workload or change things (my DH would probably just live on take aways and just do his own washing but no one else's).
Or have lots of you gone down this route and found it works really well.
YANBU nothing changes
YABU I have tried it and now we split house hold chores evenly