Asking if I want children?

[alwaysthefool]

I feel it might not happen for me, single and late 30s. A 19 year old apprentice at work asked if I wanted children (knowing I’m single) and it wasn’t like I was even talking about children or dating.

It really upset me, not to the point I’m crying or showed it bothered me. But I feel it’s inappropriate to ask me such personal questions. Or I’m just very sensitive. I’d never ask anyone that question, for all I know they might have just had a miscarriage.

I'm 41 and unfortunately still single. I work with children so get this a lot. I can't bear it when people ask me if I have kids. And they ask me a lot. I used to be ok about it but not anymore. It's even worse when people tell me to adopt or have IVF. For carouse good reasons, neither of those are avenues I can go down.

When I was around 18 years old I worked with a late 30 year old and asked her if her and her partner ever considered having children and that she’d make a good mum. I didn’t know this at the time but her partner had infertility issues and they never had children.
10 years on from that and experiencing losses myself and I can hand on heart say I can see why I shouldn’t of asked that question. I don’t think you truly think about how that can affect someone especially when you’re in your late teens. I still think about me asking her that question even all these years later, especially after my wedding I had a lot of people ask me when are we having children? We had a miscarriage 2 weeks before our wedding day and no one knew.

So I am going to say YANBU for being hurt by her comment but I am sure there was no bad intentions. I hope like me she realises one day that comments like that can hurt and shouldn’t be made x

Awful question especially to a woman in her 30s...but a 19 year old probably just thought they were making conversation and didn't realise their faux pas

Were does it say the 19 year old was a boy?