Grandma acting like my children are babies still

[Pinkgrass]

I just need to rant and see if anyone's in a similar position.
My mother has always been a difficult character, unstable cant control her emotions.
My daughter is about to start school shes so bright and confident but my mother completely babies her and acts like shes still 1. Speaks to her as if she's a baby and buys her things which would be aimed at babies. This morning we recieved our daughters school place. I am soooo excited for her to start school, she is ready and will thrive.
My daughters school place resulted in my mother crying her eyes out about how "her baby" can't be ready for school because she's just a baby. Instead of being buzzing about recieiving our school place iv had to spend the morning consoling my bloody mother.
She turns 5 the month she starts school! She's not even one of the younger ones!

Am I being harsh by being annoyed about this?!

Firstly, congratulations on getting the school place! My DS got his this morning and it’s such a relief!

Secondly, I would have a chat with your mum about how she’s babying your daughter too much. Acknowledge how she feels but make it clear you won’t be accepting gifts that are completely inappropriate for her age as they clutter the house for no good reason. Hopefully if you start ignoring/refusing to pander to her attitude she will move on and accept your DCs true age. 🤷‍♀️

Sounds like your mum is a bit of a soppy git. Be nice, smile at her bit of ridiculousness and your daughter will soon be saying to her "no grandma, I'm a BIG girl! " this is one to not battle about.

Yikes I hope she wasn’t crying about your DD starting school in front of her. One of my DDs was a little nervous about school and a grandparent being sad about it would have really made her anxious.
I think you have to have a firm word with her, there’s being soppy then there’s just being plain weird and I think your mum has crossed that line now.

My DD regularly reminds her that she is a big girl! It's so frustrating that me and my 4 year old have to constantly remind her. This should have been such a happy day but she makes everything about her and how she is feeling. Its hard work

Shes cried infront of her multiple times about "growing up" and in the build up to receiving school offers. My daughter just tells her she's a big girl now (which usually results in more crocodile tears) it is really weird. Luckily doesn't seem to affect my daughter it just annoys me