Male Acquaintances sending Me Screenshots of my Dating Profile

[Tabby87]

AIBU to think it's very weird for male acquaintances to send me screenshots of my online dating profile?

Joined Bumble recently and had an ex from over a decade ago whatsapp me screenshots of my profile. He did the same when I joined a few months ago and deleted.

I've had platonic male friend acquaintances do the same.

Is this not really creepy? If I wanted to match them I would, but I don't. I'm not sure what the objective is.

I've deleted my account a few times in the past over things like this.

Just block him.

Tell them no need to send you a screenshot, you already know what your profile looks like 🤣

Yes a bot stalkerish. Do you talk usually?

We're on ok terms but I never message or call him first. I don't think I've contacted him first since last September and that was just a brief, polite check in.

He's messaged and called me (I never answer) a lot since then. I normally give a very brief response and never agree to plans.

He cheated on me with a few people a long time ago, so in a sense it's sort of karma. I used to be the one chasing after him.

Not remotely romantically or sexually interested in him nowadays.

There's your answer then, he's trying to edge out of the friend zone...letting you know he's noticed your profile and that he's on the dating site too?
Probably the same answer for the other guys as well.

If someone didn't match me on a dating site I'd assume they'd swiped left, rather than not spotted me yet.

But I'm not an entitled man.

I suppose it bothers me since it feels like being monitored.

I'll start just not responding or being even clearer that I'm not interested.

Tinder has the option to block everyone in your contacts from seeing your profile, does Bumble have the same?

I don't think so, but that's a very good idea!

Decided to just message him directly there and ask why he sent the screenshot. I said I already know I'm on it.

He's online and no response.

Hopefully that's the end of being sent them.

That's weird lol what's your life got to do with them now other than sounds like there still hung up over you. If it happened me I wouldn't even interact block and forget.

With your ex, I'd imagine he's just angling for a shag.

With your platonic aquaintances, it's probably just a Hello. It's like someone giving a quick beep on their horn as they drive past you, or waving across a busy theatre as you walk in. It's a "Fancy seeing you here" more than anything else.