To think this comment DP made about an ex is not needed?

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Choosing what we should have for dinner, going back and forth a bit.
He says he probably wants the chicken.
I say maybe you should get this burger (it looked good)
He says no that was ex's names order.
AIBU to think you don't say that???? He used her name too, I don't know her, why would I care. He said it was a joke but AIBU to think that was just to be mean?

Why are you telling him want to order?

I think it was just a stupid joke to move quickly past, not something to dwell on

Honestly this is in no way a big deal.

“Mean”?

Oh ffs! Have you never made a suggestion to anyone when out for food?

Not sure I’d say it was mean but maybe inappropriate- just no need to mention it.

I think I’d be a little miffed if OH had said something like this

*but as others have said it wouldn’t be a massive deal to me and definitely wouldn’t dwell on it

Are you that jealous? Who on earth cares about something so minor 💁🏼‍♀️

maybe he said this just to explain why he didn’t want to go with this particular burger. It makes sense for me if he usually likes burgers.

I cannot see how this is vaguely offensive let alone mean. When you say 'he used her name too' the underlying message is you're shocked. Partners and even spouses will mention exs names from time to time. He didn't need to of course but he's just relaxing with you, the person he's chosen to be with and it came out because he associated that dish with her. Doesn't sound like he's about to lament losing the love of his life, it sounds more like even if he did like that burger (or whatever) the association with ex puts him off.
Relationships are hard and life is hard atm. Don't look for problems.

whats wrong with using her name?? I’m a bit lost. You obviously know who she is. What’s the issue with this?

Has he cheated on you with her? I can't think of another reason why you're in a huff?

Mountain & molehill. Get over it unless you're about to drip feed.