Dating an old flame after a break up

[UncomfortableEx]

Similar to the whole Jennifer Garner / Ben Affleck / Jennifer Lopez situation. But uglier, obviously.

Do you think it's acceptable after coming out of a 15+ year relationship to rekindle things with an ex from 20 years ago? Particularly if it's been clear throughout the marriage that the old flame had a special place in the heart of the ex partner.
My ex is doing this and it's pissing me off but I'm not sure if I have any right to be. No crossover between the relationships at all and no contact with the old flame during our relationship either.

I definitely knew he had a fondness for her, which never bothered me throughout our relationship, but now we've split up and he's in contact with her it's really upset me and made me feel like I was second best the entire time.

I think it’s normal to feel hurt but don’t ponder too much on it. Yeah maybe this maybe that but it doesn’t necessarily mean anything. It’s not about you iykwim xx you’ll be ok

As the pp has said, it’s normal to feel hurt but I think after the length of time you spent together that you’d feel hurt when he moved on with anyone.

Let him be, as you said there was no crossover and nothing happened whilst you were together so it’s good to know that he respected you and your relationship.

It’s time to focus on you, focus on your next phase and be real to you.

He just cba to get out there and connect with someone new. If she's showing a little interest that's an ego boost at a hard time with potential for nostalgia making him feel younger too. You're not second best he's just not got any imagination/ inclination/ confidence to go and date new people yet.