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AIBU?

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To leave a ‘dream job’ to relocate?

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Brunelofbrio · 16/04/2023 14:47

After a ‘chequered’ job history I have finally found a career post which really suits me (at the age of 45!). My team is great, the management supportive and there is a good pension with decent prospects… it is however a fairly unique post and it only exists at one location in the UK.

The location is near where I currently live in a dull, dormitory suburb in outer London. Neither DH or I are happy there. DH’s MH is struggling with the noise and lack of space. We have no family links to the area and can’t afford the house we want anywhere (in the region). DCs are settled there and it is practical but they are now getting towards upper primary and our window for moving is closing rapidly (we would like to be moved before DC1 starts secondary) it’s basically reached a crunch point as we either move in the next 12 months or are stuck where we are for another 10 years.

DH can now look at remote working anywhere and I can use my skills to work in a different setting in the area we are looking at moving too.

AIBU to give up a job I love and which I have waited years for (waiting for a vacancy to come up) where I have only been in post for less than 2 years, in order to move to the coast and a better lifestyle?

WWYD?

OP posts:
Upsirdown · 16/04/2023 14:54

I appreciate it's a difficult decision, OP. What I find helpful initially is a Pros and Cons table and I soon find one column outweighs the other.
A tip I heard on the radio last week was

  1. ask yourself if you’re happy now.
  2. If the answer is No, ask if staying where you are job/location etc is likely to improve your situation/ happiness within 5 years.
  3. Then ask yourself if taking the risk is likely to improve your situation/ happiness within 5 years.

I hope these help & good luck, Op! 💐

zusje · 16/04/2023 16:30

It's a difficult decision, especially as we spend so much time at work, but personally I work to live, not the other way around. So if my life and my family's life would be so much better by moving and it means I'm in a job I don't "love" but don't hate either and I can do it well and it's not impacting on my personal life, then I'd move.

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