Parent plays music (techno) very loudly on all car journeys. Asks child if they like the music. Child reluctantly admits that they do not. Parent tells child that this is not a nice thing to say, it is hurtful, disappointing and that child should make more effort to like it because parent likes it. Parent continues to play music loudly. A couple of days later, parent asks child again if child likes the music. Child says yes.
Parent has lost a friend tragically. When discussing it with child, child says that the deceased person is in a better place, trying to comfort parent. Parent then says, "oh so if I died you wouldn't bother crying, you'd just say oh well, they're in a better place. You probably wouldn't even care if I died". Child is becoming nervous and self conscious of what they say, in case they cause upset to someone. Child now feels that they are always saying the wrong thing.
If child is unwell and does not see parent at the weekend, parent will say, "you probably weren't even sick, I think you just didn't want to see me". Child has said that they now feel guilty and will be anxious when next seeing parent.
Parent is always looking for sympathy. Every time child sees parent there is something wrong. If child does not make enough fuss over parent and does not give enough sympathy parent will say things like (imitating child's voice) "oh you'll be fine, I'm off now meeting my friend, too busy to worry or care about you". Child then feels guilty.
Child has once asked other parent to speak to this parent about an issue. They did, and child was told off and made to feel incredibly guilty for telling.
There is a lot more, but those are some examples. I want to know what this behaviour is? Child in this situation is sensitive as it is and a very deep thinker. I don't know how to help them.