Was friend being bitchy?

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HiBarbieHiKen · 15/04/2023 20:26

Around a year ago I had a horrible hairdressing experience. He chopped off a huge chunk of my hair (loads more happened but irrelevant for this). I met up with friend told her and she purposely walked slowly behind me when leaving and lifted my hair up and gasped.

Met up with her maybe a few months after and one of the first things she said was I just can’t get over how short your hair is. I just felt it was a bit cruel seeing as she knew I was upset about it and it wasn’t my decision to go that short.

Fast forward to this weekend where we met for drinks and I point blank said (after she mentioned something about her hair) oh my hairs looking much longer now. And she just said yeah shrug.

Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t expect her to gush or cry and say I’m basically rapunzel now but I don’t know .. I’d just personally hype my friends up about something I know had knocked their confidence.

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Zola1 · 15/04/2023 20:27

Did she realise she had really upset you? This is the sort of thing my friends and I would tease each other about jokingly as hair does grow back

PussBilledDuckyPlait · 15/04/2023 20:29

When you mentioned your hair was looking longer, in your friend's shoes I'd have been more enthusiastic even if I hadn't noticed it.

BlastedPimples · 15/04/2023 20:34

The walking slowly behind you, lifting your hair and gasping was ridiculous. Designed to cause you embarrassment.

Is this a good friend? Have there been other examples of behaviour where she is ott and you feel more embarrassed than you should?

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HiBarbieHiKen · 15/04/2023 20:36

Zola1 · 15/04/2023 20:27

Did she realise she had really upset you? This is the sort of thing my friends and I would tease each other about jokingly as hair does grow back

Yes she did, she knows I’m not a confident person and my long hair was like a safety blanket. So whilst I can definitely joke about myself, things that damage my confidence further and makes something as simple as just walking into work on the Monday after so difficult for me I don’t find funny.

We didn’t joke about either so it’s not like she got confused about something being “off limits”

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TheRealShatParp · 15/04/2023 20:42

YANBU. We really pick up on everything when we’re hypersensitive though, so perhaps it’s behaviour that you usually wouldn’t notice from her? I’m not saying it’s okay, but that perhaps it’s in keeping with her usual self? in which case it is probably not personal, just her normal amount of shitty.

barmycatmum · 15/04/2023 20:44

It was a fairly oblivious dick move. Sounds like she’s not sensitive to your feelings.
pretty callous, in my book. Rude!

Pinkyhere · 15/04/2023 21:28

Not a friend I would want to spend time with.
It just nasty behaviour.
There is a personality type that exploits the vulnerabilities of others for their own gain. It basically made her feel better to knock you when you're down. Which is really horrible
I would cool the friendship

Ladybug14 · 16/04/2023 07:23

This person isn't a friend

MichelleScarn · 16/04/2023 07:27

How much hair was cut off? Are you talking about going from something like hip length to above the shoulder or total clipped?
My friend also has a lot of identity/security tied up in her long hair and would see having 2 inches off as a 'huge chop' I hope that you didn't pay the salon until they rectified the bad cut.

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