To not like 'going out' anymore?

[Supernova23]

Am I the only person who hates going 'out' as in to events, out for drinks, parties, and politely declines most invitations? the worst being anything work

No idea why this didn't all load. It was supposed to say anything work related. Generally I'd rather stick pins in my eyes than do anything social with colleagues. I'd much rather just stay at home with the TV on. Normal life leaves me all peopled out.

I’m sure you’re not the only person who doesn’t go to parties or pubs. Mumsnet is full of them.

Not sure the point of your AIBU. People like different things.

They do, but I feel there is always a massive pressure to be social. When you aren't, people think you are some sort of leper.

I think a balance is good.

I say no more often than I used to, and really enjoy the socialising I do involve myself in.

My friends are lovely, and I probably go out for lunch/dinner/theatre/cinema about once a week. I don’t drink alcohol so I don’t have to worry about managing hangovers.

This is enough for me, but I have friends who only stay in once or twice a week max. We’re all different…

Well if you decline ‘most invitations’ to social things eventually people will stop making an effort. That’s just the reality.

I only say yes if its something I really want to do, but generally its a no from me. I have worked with the general public for over 20 years, and I generally feel people'd out now. I deliberately keep my friendship circle small, but I am very happy in my own company.

And absolutely not to social events with work colleagues!

Nope, definitely not alone. We have a new young dynamic self professed high achiever manager who's dead keen on work socialising bollox, and I was the same at that age (I hadn't had an expensive management school indoctrination, sorry education, on how to manage though). I am forever trying to find excuses to get out of these things and I'm not the only one. I outgrew all of this over ten years ago.

Now I just want to stay in and watch boxsets with a pizza and the cat... interestingly the last two or three attempts at this have been cancelled as so many people have declined. I might get sociabilitis again in the future but it's unlikely to be with the colleagues at this place, most of whom I really dislike (it's not my imagination, they pride themselves on being really friendly but they're actually mostly superficial and gossipy).

YANBU but you get out what you put in.

I enjoy socialising but like everyone have frequently had times when I just want to curl up and stay in, and can't be arsed to shlep across London to go to a friend's drinks where I won't even know anyone apart from her. Sometimes I give into that and send my apologies and it's fine. Other times I give myself a shake, remember that friendships need nurturing, I should put in effort sometimes and I'll enjoy it when I get there. Which I invariably do.

I particularly detest work social events and take a hard-nosed approach to them. Will there be someone there who might benefit my career? Get in, do the networking and get out. In previous jobs where I knew I wasn't in my long-term industry, I never bothered.

I don't pay heed to people who may think I should be out when I want to be in.
I wouldn't even give it 2 seconds thought, if I want to go out I will, if I don't I will make my excuses to any invite and will stay home.

I prefer to stay in as a general rule, I'm more of an introvert and a homebody but do make an effort to see friends otherwise friendships fade over time and I like the time I spend with them.

I do not socialise with people from work, maybe 1 time a year we'll do a team meal which I may attend but on the whole, I have enough on with managing my life and those people are not my friends, even if I am friendly with them.

I love my work colleagues but the older I’ve become, the more I turn down invites. I actually find it easy to say no these days, whereas in my younger years I’d go, when 50% of the time I probably didn’t really fancy it.

It doesn’t help that I don’t live locally to them, so any outing is always at least a £40 taxi ride for me, a lot of faff to organise as the area I live doesn’t have lots of cheap taxi firms, just one man bands.

I do feel a little awkward about it at times but now they’re so used to me saying no, they mostly expect it, in good faith.

I decline most invitations.

im menopausal so generally get annoyed with people.

i have a wedding in 2 weeks. I don’t want to go. My friends daughter and its difficult to decline. I even offered to take her dog in for the weekend to avoid going. But no, i have to go. Its an expense i don’t need in my life. Seeing people, having to smile when i just dont want to mix.

luckily its 2 miles down the road so i can drive home when I’ve had enough. Blame the IBS.

i refused to go to the hen do (bridesmaid are wild, and not my friends so no need to be there) and having seen stories on Instagram im glad I didn’t go.

i love nothing more than pizza and Netflix on the sofa.